They have given it in the past on install DVDs but they haven't given a copy of it that counts as purchased on the App Store and that can legally be used by your other Macs in the past.Yes, I realize all of that, as I have done it about five times already to get my SSD RAID going. And why wouldn't Apple give us iLife '11 as part of new Mac's that come with Lion pre-installed? iLife '11 is very much a part of new Mac's, whether it's Lion or Lion Server.
Yes it is annoying. I'm running Mac OS X Server on my 2011 Mini Server and it's working fine for me. I would probably have rather not had the Server component as I don't need them, but so far they don't seem to be causing much trouble.I find it annoying that I can't just download OS X Lion (the NON-server version) from the AppStore and make my own bootable USB Flash drive, nor can I specifically choose OS X Lion as opposed to OS X Lion Server using Internet Recovery. I had to go through not-so-legit channels to accomplish exactly that. Also, when you look at the Mac mini server page on Apple's Online store, it clearly states that the Mac mini server comes with OS X Lion, OS X Lion Server, as well as iLife '11.
Apple obviously chose to do it this way. Older gen Mac Mini Servers came with OS X Server install disks only so it's not unexpected.