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Posting "Naked" Pics of your GF post break up?

CorvusCamenarum said:
It would probably depend on what she did and how she did it. If she was straightforward and honest about it, probably nothing. But consider the gold-digging ex from several years ago who decided it would be a good idea to cheat on me with my best friend at the time, was incredibly shady about it, and denied it once I found out. Her, I got fired from her job. Him, not a thing, because if a man steals your wife/girlfriend, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. I did go see his parents and let them know what was going on - they own a bank and have considerable assets to protect. They disowned him and wrote him out of the will. Pictures on the web are amateurish.
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wow:eek: you took care of that situation haha.

i have been tempted to do this in the past but i realized it doenst change anything. its not going to cause them to get back with you nor will it ultimately make you feel any better. i think after some time you might look back and think, man i was a jerk haha. it might make you feel good initially but if you really want to stick it to her move on with your life and show her that you are 100% ok and maybe even better off without her.

this is kind of what happened with my now fiancé. she went bonkers and wanted to break up so i let her and two months later she came running back to me because i showed her that i had my own life. now we're getting married. relationships are crazy. in my experience do what ever you feel is the opposite of right is hahaha.
 
I wouldn't, but I can understand doing something you normally wouldn't in the heat of the moment...

There's another internet forum I frequent, and let's just say, it is a lot more no-holds barred than this one. One poster started a thread, his girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend (also a frequent member of the forum). It had been going on for awhile, they were going so far as to have sex on his bed while he was gone. The straw that broke the camels back was him finding nude pictures that they were sending to each other. He took them and posted them on on the forum, and called the guy out.

Morally correct? No. The two should be ashamed of their actions, and have other issues if they can't be honest with someone who is supposed to be a boyfriend/best friend. The poster should be happy not to have those two people in his life anymore, but I can understand if he wasn't thinking that at the time.

I've been cheated on, and consider that one of the biggest causes to over react, but never felt tempted to post nudes of her online, her actions are enough of a reason to feel ashamed.
 
If the pictures were taken for private use with the assumption that they would never be shown the answer is not to show them under any circumstances. The best idea is just never take the photos.
 
It would be tasteless and tacky. People should have more respect for each other. Think of what the other person will have to go through if people they know notice the person in the picture.
 
That's pretty slack. I wouldn't want it happening to me, so I wouldn't do it to someone else. But then again I wouldn't take naked photos of myself.
 
jsw said:
Posting such pictures on the internet for the world to see would pretty much prove she was right to leave, IMO
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I agree - it's small-minded. There's no benefit whatsoever except trying to vindicate some selfish agenda or grudge. It's classless, tasteless, and callous. If you're really that pissed off there must be more intelligent ways to even the score, if you're not big enough of a man to just move on..

m2c.
 
Unfortunately these sorts of things happen all the time.

I don't think there is a situation in which it is "ok" to post pictures of your girlfriend after a break-up. The fact that it does happen probably deters a lot of people from doing these things, which I don't have a problem with assuming it's with 100% confirmed MUTUAL consent. But that's behind closed doors and very different.
 
IMO, the guy who took the photo has the legal ownership or copyright to the photo. BUT he cannot use them in a public venue (ie the Internet or advertisement) without having her signing a model release form allowing her likeness to be used in said manner. He can have a huge poster of his naked ex- posted on his bedroom wall, but he cannot have the it posted in his studio (assuming he has a studio). I don't know about carrying around a wallet size, but I think it's okay, unless he's showing it off.
 
In California, you could be sued (successfully) for invasion of privacy, false light (and because I am sure you would post some BS smack to go with the pictures) defamation. Because it is impossible to get something off the web once posted, the damages could be significant.

As for the "morality", I have to go with the majority other posters, be a man and let it go. That sort of vindictive stuff should have gone out with grade school. If you are an adult and contemplating doing this.... GROW UP!:mad:
 
CRAZYBUBBA said:
Doesn't it depend on what actually precipitated between them? but point taken, any such photos are undoubtedly meant to be for personal use.

I think it's difficult to say one way or another. Also, I'm not a legal expert but it would be interesting to see an article about people being sued over similar situations. How exactly does one determine who's property the pictures are?
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This issue is not who owns the photos. Its intruding one’s privacy & publicizing private facts. Expect to be sued, you deserve it.
 
iShater said:
This is why you should never ever ever agree to such things. :rolleyes:
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Not at all. That's why both parties should have the nude pics of each other. Pretty much guarantees neither party is going to post them. There have already been nude pics of me on the net (for some film work I've done), so I couldn't care less. It's the human body- and we all live in one.
 
I would NEVER do this
I don't think ANYONE should do this

With that said, if you are married and cheat on your husband/wife with a friend....all is fair in love and war.
 
I've basically had this happen to me and it's a very petty pathetic thing to do to someone, all it does is tell everyone you show the picture to that you're a complete idiot.

One is well within one's right to prosecute anyone who would do such a thing.
 
CorvusCamenarum said:
It would probably depend on what she did and how she did it. If she was straightforward and honest about it, probably nothing. But consider the gold-digging ex from several years ago who decided it would be a good idea to cheat on me with my best friend at the time, was incredibly shady about it, and denied it once I found out. Her, I got fired from her job. Him, not a thing, because if a man steals your wife/girlfriend, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. I did go see his parents and let them know what was going on - they own a bank and have considerable assets to protect. They disowned him and wrote him out of the will. Pictures on the web are amateurish.
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What sort of employer fires someone from their job for cheating on their boyfriend? What sort of parents write their son out of their will for cheating with someone else's girlfriend? Considerable assets to protect? All the assets in the world won't make them decent human beings.

Cheating on you might have hurt your feelings, made you feel inadequate, what you did was far worse. Either you are lying, or you live in a ****ed up part of the world. Move.
 
windywoo said:
What sort of employer fires someone from their job for cheating on their boyfriend? What sort of parents write their son out of their will for cheating with someone else's girlfriend? Considerable assets to protect? All the assets in the world won't make them decent human beings.

Cheating on you might have hurt your feelings, made you feel inadequate, what you did was far worse. Either you are lying, or you live in a ****ed up part of the world. Move.
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I suppose I should have added in these details, so:
She didn't get fired for cheating. She got fired for calling in sick when what she really was doing was playing hooky. It just happened to be highly coincidental that 1) I saw her out and about that day, 2) I happened to have had business where she was working at the time, and 3) her boss and I knew each other and had occasion to speak.

When I took her to meet my parents, it was brought to my attention that she flat out asked my mother how much money we were to receive should we get married. I'm sure you'll agree it was an utterly tasteless question. However, I was 20 then, and like many 20 year olds, utterly stupid when it came to certain things. It was only in the coming weeks, and after she and I separated, that I finally saw she was all about money and nothing else. I thought it was best that his parents know that.

OscartheGrouch said:
Some would argue that allowing a picture of that type to be taken of yourself is pretty classless also.
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True, but haven't you heard that shame is so last century?
 
CorvusCamenarum said:
I suppose I should have added in these details, so:
She didn't get fired for cheating. She got fired for calling in sick when what she really was doing was playing hooky. It just happened to be highly coincidental that 1) I saw her out and about that day, 2) I happened to have had business where she was working at the time, and 3) her boss and I knew each other and had occasion to speak.

When I took her to meet my parents, it was brought to my attention that she flat out asked my mother how much money we were to receive should we get married. I'm sure you'll agree it was an utterly tasteless question. However, I was 20 then, and like many 20 year olds, utterly stupid when it came to certain things. It was only in the coming weeks, and after she and I separated, that I finally saw she was all about money and nothing else. I thought it was best that his parents know that.


True, but haven't you heard that shame is so last century?
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True.. and you are my new hero btw. I thought I was the king of revenge, however I was wrong.
 
jsw said:
Plus, of course, it would just scream "I used to have this, but I couldn't hold onto it, and I guess it's obvious why."
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not even a little bit. All it would show is that the person posting the photos needs to grow up and learn to deal with the break up, it would have no bearing at all on who's fault the break up was?

She could have been committing adultery and that is why they broke up ( doesn't change fact that posting pictures is a ****** thing to do).
 
OscarTheGrouch said:
Some would argue that allowing a picture of that type to be taken of yourself is pretty classless also.
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Roads do typically run both ways, I agree.

It's best to just never give anyone a reason or a thing to hold something over your head in the first place.
 
No matter who OWNS the picture, I believe it is still illegal to share someone else's naked picture(s) with others without the consent.
 
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