Rant #400000- Parents

[CorvusCamenarum]

I hate to say it lad, but you sound very, very spoiled. It sounds like you've got it pretty good compared to a lot of kids your age, judging from the various threads discussing all the electronic toys you have and your taste in overpriced "hip" clothes, etc. Your father obviously works very hard to give your family a good life, and maybe you should take a minute to ponder how you'd be doing if he wasn't. In a real family, everyone contributes to running the household somehow or another, and if that means you have to spend the summer doing yardwork, then you need to tough it out. Besides, I have a hard time buying that you're slaving away twelve hours a day for nothing as your tone might suggest to some. If you think it's tough now, just wait until you're on your own and have to really do all of it yourself.

I can't think of the last time he offered to get tickets to any type of sporting event.

This is what really did it for me. If more paternal attention/recognition is what you're after, why does it have to involve buying you another something?

 

[w_parietti22]

just tell your parents that your not there goddamn maid.

I'm kinda going through the same thing right now... My brother is at work all the time and my other brother just graduated from college so basically all the chores are thrown onto me. Today I was told that I should just no when the dishes need to be done and that my mom shouldnt have to tell me when to do them but the catch is that i was newver told that i was supposed to be doing the dishes! ARGG!!!

 

[mikes63737]

Hmmm...strangely similar to my situation.

Mine too. As someone else said, it really is not all that uncommon.

Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. They should change things a little bit. If it doesn't, then you can look forward to going to college even more now.

 

[mikes63737]

Today I was told that I should just no when the dishes need to be done and that my mom shouldnt have to tell me when to do them but the catch is that i was newver told that i was supposed to be doing the dishes! ARGG!!!

Same thing with me... except I have to do the garbage, clean the pool sometimes, and sometimes the dishes... and I never knew I had to!

 

[Applespider]

I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill.

You have three weekly jobs - two of which are seasonal. You're either snowblowing or doing the other 2. And if your Dad didn't think it had been trimmed, perhaps you cut a few corners since you didn't want to be doing it anyhow? You did it... but not well.

And you unload the dishwasher which if it takes more than 5 minutes, you're slacking.

I'd imagine that your mother is also doing the shopping, planning meals, cooking, general cleaning, tidying up after people and having a life of her own. She's likely doing a huge pile of things that you don't notice or appreciate her for.

If your Dad is so swamped at work and earning so you can enjoy the lifestyle you do, then general maintenance is it.

And your sister is working through college studying medicine? That's a heck of a lot of work. And since you're only in high school with your college recommendation, your workload is a lot less than hers and to be honest, less important in the grand scheme of things since high school work is really only important while you're there. Once you're at college and your work is actually part of what you're going to be doing for the rest of your life, then complain.

 

[sushi]

My adoptive mum's family is worse. They made her take a job working for her uncle at his meat market. Then, they took all her money and gave it to her older sister who was going to college. They also took money from the next younger sister, but never from her brothers.

Reminds me of the orient.

Son and daughter both are in college and doing well. Father dies. Son gets priority. Daughter drops out of college and sold into prostitution to support the family (read son). Seen it first hand.

 

[jadekitty24]

Wow, I cooked dinner for myself at the age of 15, never did I think to throw blame at my mother for not wiping my tooshy at such an age. I can't really give you any advice because it seems you are just on a typical teen-aged rant, where even the littlest thing is the end of the world, and probably nothing I say will change your mind on that. I really don't mean to sound so harsh, but I haven't read one real issue here that is as serious as you are making it out to be. Why don't you try being a bit more thankful for the blessings you do have instead of focusing on the minor crap? When you hit the real world it will be one helluva smack in the face if you don't.

 

[bousozoku]

Reminds me of the orient.

Son and daughter both are in college and doing well. Father dies. Son gets priority. Daughter drops out of college and sold into prostitution to support the family (read son). Seen it first hand.

It's not difficult to believe if you simply look at the number of "adult" calendars produced every year.

My adoptive mum had it good in contrast to her dad. He was sold at the age of 7 to work on someone's farm about 1400 miles away from home.

She'd been extremely overbearing with me and I did both inside and outside chores. Then again, I learned to bake, cook, reconcile a checkbook, and drive a truck with a manual transmission all before the age of 10. No matter how bad I whine about prejudice and all that, my life was pretty good.

 

[sushi]

It's not difficult to believe if you simply look at the number of "adult" calendars produced every year.

You have a point.

However, and I have no idea why I know this , but I believe that there a few who enjoy their time (work) in the adult business industry.

My adoptive mum had it good in contrast to her dad. He was sold at the age of 7 to work on someone's farm about 1400 miles away from home.

She'd been extremely overbearing with me and I did both inside and outside chores. Then again, I learned to bake, cook, reconcile a checkbook, and drive a truck with a manual transmission all before the age of 10. No matter how bad I whine about prejudice and all that, my life was pretty good.

Interesting story. Thanks for sharing.

I feel lucky to have been exposed to so many different cultures and points of view. While I sometimes get on my soapbox, I do feel that I am more open to seeing things from different perspectives.

The world is not fair. As one of my bosses used to say, "God helps those who help themselves." Profound words to say the least.

It is really surprising what the human spirit can endure, concur and overcome.

P.S. On a side note, was that a single or double clutch truck? I always got a kick out of driving a double clutch truck in my teen years on the farm.

 

[bousozoku]

You have a point.

However, and I have no idea why I know this , but I believe that there a few who enjoy their time (work) in the adult business industry.


Interesting story. Thanks for sharing.

I feel lucky to have been exposed to so many different cultures and points of view. While I sometimes get on my soapbox, I do feel that I am more open to seeing things from different perspectives.

The world is not fair. As one of my bosses used to say, "God helps those who help themselves." Profound words to say the least.

It is really surprising what the human spirit can endure, concur and overcome.

P.S. On a side note, was that a single or double clutch truck? I always got a kick out of driving a double clutch truck in my teen years on the farm.

A plain old single clutch truck--a 1970 Ford F100.

Those girls who work for the Yakuza had better look as though they're enjoying it. I suppose a few walked into such businesses willingly as actresses without talent and are pleased to be a success.

I wonder what my life had been had I been left to rot with all of the other mixed kids.

 

[CompUser]

This is what really did it for me. If more paternal attention/recognition is what you're after, why does it have to involve buying you another something?

I don't mean it in a materialistic way. I mean wanting to spend time with his family.

 

[Kingsly]

I don't really think that work because they won't even listen to me in the first place- and if they change it will be for literally 5 minutes.

Yes but consider the alternative: If you completely freak out than you are automatically branded as a emotional teenager and they will *never* listen to you. Sit them down. Do it individually if you think that will help. (so they don't distract each other)
Just find a good time, go to one of them and say "[family member] can we talk? I have something really important to get off my chest." Take the person somewhere quiet (preferably free of distractions and with a close-able door) and pour it out.
Good luck.