I recently sold my 3GS on ebay. I said in the auction that i would ship internationally. The winner was from Russia. After some research it seems like Russia is not a safe place to send a phone. So i messaged the buyer BEFORE he paid and told him it was my mistake and i wouldn't be shipping the phone so he should not pay. Of course he paid anyways (a day later so he read the message) and said that they have no shipping troubles in Russia. And on top of that he didn't even include the $20 in shipping i put on the auction. Also payday is saying his money will not be confirmed until Nov 9th. can i refund this purchase? I am worried if it hit refund its going to take the money from me since his money is no confirmed.