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Relationship advice needed, if possible.

Ivan P

Ivan P

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I'm at a dead end here, so my last resort is to post this here.

Basically, my partner of a year and a half has randomly decided to stop talking to me. It's only been 12 hours but considering the way in which he left the conversation yesterday I have absolutely no idea what to do, and I'm getting really worried. Yesterday evening we were texting each other, and he seemed fine. Then suddenly I stopped getting answers. Alright, I thought, he might be busy. I let 3 hours go by, still nothing. I send a text asking if he's alright. No answer. More worried, I decide to call him. His phone is turned off, so it goes straight to voicemail.
I have no idea what could have provoked this, so I get on Facebook and send his mum a message asking if he's been acting strangely today - the message I get back is "he wants a break from you".
So I have no idea what to do or what the hell has just happened. We were getting along fine, we haven't had any sort of falling out in a long time, and randomly he begins ignoring me. And that message from his mum makes it even weirder considering I know that he tries to avoid talking about me to her whenever possible (not because of me, but because of the fact his mum likes to ask questions about things that don't concern her).

I'm worried as hell and have no idea what to do and no one to turn to. I have no idea what could have provoked this, I'm absolutely clueless. I know this is just an internet message board but if anyone has some good advice that'd be greatly appreciated.
 
He sounds like a wimp. Getting his mum to tell you that he wants some space is the act of a coward. I would advise you to give him some space.

It is not what you did or what you have not done. Also you may be reading to much into it.
 
"he wants a break from you" usually equals needs time alone to think stuff through.

give him space and time
but prepare yourself for the worst.

dont email/text/phone
let him make the first move back.

do you guys live together ?
 
give him his break. he HAS to talk to you eventually. so let him be the one that makes the move to talk to you. even if its 48+ hours, let him talk to you first. I know it will be hard not to talk to him, but don't. Then when he finally talks to you, you can express the way you feel to him about what why he is doing this. And if it's for the best, move on, there is always better out there.

Be the bigger person, and don't let off on him.
 
Just thinking out loud, bear with me:

(1) It sounds possible that his mother might say "he wants a break from you" even if he doesn't - does she disapprove of your relationship?

(2) His phone might have died, or he might have forgotten to pay the bill.

Might sound like a stretch, but I'm trying to play devil's advocate. Hope everything ends up okay.
 
I would insist that if he wants a break, he tells you himself. If he isn't responding to you, then maybe try to pass that message through his mother or a mutual friend. I can't stand @#$% like this from a partner and have never tolerated it. If he can't tell you, then it's time for you to grieve and move on. A partner who can't communicate isn't worth the time anyway.
 
To answer whoever asked, we dont live together. We still live with our parents, but thats because I only turned 18 a fortnight ago and work a block from home, and because he works for his dad.

He just emailed me, and apparently his mums been saying that Ive been sending her nasty messages on Facebook, when this is the first time I've talked to her in months (I try and avoid it).

Ugh, sorry to vent, but she's so stupid.

Edit: And now she's deleted her Facebook account. No idea what thats supposed to mean.
 
Ivan P said:
To answer whoever asked, we dont live together. We still live with our parents, but thats because I only turned 18 a fortnight ago and work a block from home, and because he works for his dad.

He just emailed me, and apparently his mums been saying that Ive been sending her nasty messages on Facebook, when this is the first time I've talked to her in months (I try and avoid it).

Ugh, sorry to vent, but she's so stupid.

Edit: And now she's deleted her Facebook account. No idea what thats supposed to mean.
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Well what did his email say? Any explanation for not contacting you? Any discussion about him no longer wishing to be with you? Explain that mess :rolleyes:
 
My 2¢.

If you don't talk to his mother very often, then FB her to ask if he's been acting strangely after only 12 hours radio silence, well that seems a little overbearing. Perhaps it is she who thinks a break is needed, and the message got muddled into you thinking it is he who says that.

Of course I don't know your relationship with her, or if there is an understanding or habit of getting her insight, but maybe you should wait to hear from the source.
 
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