update
hey so got a few developments: I have figured out that if i disconnect my computer from the wireless network, then reconnect it, the remote works fine again (until i turn my ipod off and on, then i get stuck at "looking for library" again) Also, i have tried out the app on itunes libraries on other computers on my same network, and also with my same problematic computer on other networks, and it works perfectly. As you might imagine this has been incredibly frustrating to me, i like to think of myself as handy with a computer, but i don't know enough about wireless networking to try messing with my settings without guidance. Any help on this would be greatly appreciated (heck i'd appreciate any random suggestions at this point)