Since the MR community is so awesome and my friends are not, I thought I should at least ask this here. I am currently in the process of what could best be called "courting" a girl at my college. I have yet to do this process even though I'm 22. I have very ambitious romantic ideals but I am also a realist. So with this in mind I ask: what should I do for Valentine's Day? Here are some caveats: 1) She is coming back from a class trip to Vegas late on Valentine's day. I thought maybe something left at her door before she gets back would be a good idea? 2) We're not "officially" dating or anything. She invited me to a party, a couple campus events (neither one of us have a car) and a small social gathering/dinner at school. She has invited me to a dinner with her 3 "girl friends" this weekend. We get along very well. 3) I've tried to make it very clear I am interested through a variety of means (in person and online communications) and I haven't felt rejected yet so I guess that's a good sign. Here's the biggest thing I have to consider 4) She's Asian. (From Vietnam specifically) She's lived here for about 4 or 5 years now. Her English is fairly good but I have to be careful and not use too many colloquialisms to avoid any confusion. Does anyone here have knowledge of the differences between the two countries? I am planning on just being myself but it would be to be aware of what she might be expecting. I was planning on being clever and getting her Vietnam's native flower for Valentine's day. But it turns out that flower would be a lotus which is hard to find... Is there some clever idea out there I am missing? I don't want to be TOO forward with the gift but I don't want to be passive either. Nothing will happen unless I take initiate. Years of not doing soon has taught me this and I am determined not to do it again. But considering her cultural background, I think I might have cause to be a little more careful than usual. Thanks MR for your assistance on this matter!