Anyone else have ****** roommate(s)? This is a safe space to rant about your awful roommate.
I'll go first, this is a toxic and crazy situation. Get ready.....
Does anyone here live with a toxic roommate? I'm literally at my witts end here, I hate to play the race card but he's never treated his previous roommates like this. I even went out of my way to buy my own things ( TV, internet router, stove etc. ) so I won't use his. He says we're welcome to use his stuff but let him have a bad day at work and see us relaxing he'll take it away. When we rebought everything he was so pissed, I knew he used this tactic to throw his weight around - he finally admitted to it in May or June.
I work my ass off, I can pay for my own **** and I did. He makes my husband and my life hell, he's miserable he's single, car-less, and works in the sun all day.
After 15 years of "getting his credit right" he finally bought the house from my husband - the original ( verbal ) agreement was he would buy the house from my husband in a year, 2 at max.
He's been a raging passive aggressive ******* for the last 4 years. Slamming anything and everything, punching holes in the walls, cursing me out, my mother ( who only came over to help clean a house she doesn't stay here ), his best friend since High School ( my husband ), hell even his elderly father.
He has broken ALL my babygates then had the audacity to tell me my son needs more free roam around the house. I can't do that since he broke the bathroom babygate lock, locks to the cabinet with chemicals, etc. Even broke my flat screen TV, $500. He refused to admit it was him until a week later surrounded by my husbands family so I had to act like it wasn't a big deal.
These last few months has been utter hell, his original plan was buy the house and give us a 30 day notice. "THIS IS MY HOUSE NOW! I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT AND SAY WHAT I WANT!" Now that he has bought the house, the mortgage has sky rocketed ( To be fair, I suggested to my husband we kick him out. Keep the house with low mortgage and get a different roommate ). He didn't want to **** him over even tho he's been ****ing us over the last 4 years.
I go out of my way to wear headphones constantly so I can't hear him yell, which upsets him even more. He throws a tantrum then expects us to drop everything and see how he's doing, I've been crying over the deaths of my dad, foster dad and recently grandma and he could careless I was crying. I didn't want a hug or anything, I just thought he wouldn't be a heartless ******* for one day. I expected too much of him.
Anyway, two days ago he did a total 180, was nice and the ground rules was more than relaxed when originally he said the rules would be tight, our tv had to go from the living room etc. But "assured" us we didn't have to worry about moving our stuff out the master bedroom until mid November. My husband seemed hopeful while I was being gloomy about his attitude change, our roommate has bipolar. This is not the first time we saw him do a 180, him being friends with my husband since High School - my husband should had realized his behavior was temporary.
Yesterday, my husband and I are down bad with the flu, hacking and coughing all night. We didn't get any sleep, our roommate has been slamming and cursing at us. Now he wants to change rooms today. I told my husband this would happen!!
Our roommate said he'd make a makeshift bedroom for our son in the living room. I'm so tired of his crazy ideas, he's gonna make this a two story house and put a spiral stair case in the kitchen. Gonna knock down the wall in the dining area to make a grand double door entrance, gonna buy the next house over and connect it to our house. He would go to the dispensary and smoke me out so I would listen to these crazy ideas of his, after hearing his ideas for the 3rd time I stopped smoking with him. I always have my own weed ( which also upsets him ) I didn't NEED to smoke his weed, I just thought we could bond and form a friendship but I realized I don't need a toxic friendship like that, I did my best to stay away from home until my husband came home which he still didn't appreciate. As soon as we get home he starts slamming and yelling.
I go to work before him and get out before, I still didn't go home even tho I wanted to. Damned if I do, damned if I don't. Nothing will make him happy unless we leave.
He's jealous his "best friend" is a functioning alcoholic, married twice, has a kid, etc. When he's such a great guy who only does weed. Why is he someone like him single? No kids? A great guy like him? Who works inconsistently? Wow.
Sure, my husband shouldn't drink as much he's very loving, friendly, had the same job for 19 years. Choose your battles, me and my son adorable him to pieces.
He would hear us giggle at an anime we're watching, come out his room and yell. Wanted us to have lights out by 7PM - my husband doesn't get home until 4:30PM - 5PM depending on traffic. He hated when we play video games together, he said I was just in it for my husbands money - I bought my husband a gaming PC for $900 ( pre-built ), a switch during the pandemic for $500. I help him out with bills, we both got our own cars ( which our roommate hates since he doesn't have a car and relies on his dad to drive him to work and pick him up ), I'm a security supervisor do 50 hours a week or more. I have no need to play the "buy me everything daddy" mentality card.
He's so upset we're all friends with my husband's ex wife and her man- they have a kid together, they treat us better than he does and our sons love each other. I suspect my roommate and the ex wife had feelings for each other. I have heard a lot of people say our roommates name but only the ex wife will....I wanna use fake names. For example say his name is James, everyone only calls him James. She calls him Jimmy every time we talk about him, whenever our roommate mentions my husband's ex he gets so upset lol. "That bitch! Shes scum! I hope she dies!" Whole nine yards - I had to ask my husband, jokingly. "Did you marry her and she cheat on you or did HE marry her and he's still upset she cheated?"
He can never have a conversation with people, he LOVES to passive aggressively talk to his dog about how terrible my husband and I. He screamed at my mom, an elderly lady and all my husband said was: "Stop being an *******." He almost completely lost it and punched my husband but ended up punching the wall.
I have had two miscarriages due to stress, the only thing that casuing me stress is our roommate. I don't mind getting called the N word and yelled at by crackheads while at work. But it's beyond stressful to deal with that, come home to only more yelling.
He's also pissed my husband and I work inside? He decided on his job trade over 30 years ago, I don't want to work outside in the heat so guess what? I choose a job where I wouldn't be outside, this is like me being mad at office workers for having it "easy and air conditioned".
I have had 4 roommate in the past, before this I thought my worse roommates was when I was working 2 jobs, the other 2 were at 1 job, 15 - 25 hours a week. I would deliver pizza, come home for an hour to find my roommate on my PC - He said just give him a few and he'll be off. I would end up saying forget it and go to job #2 until 10PM.
I would come home and was expected to do ALL the cleaning and cooking, I even set-up meals they just had to throw in the oven on their days off and I still would get home and the oldest roommate said: "Oh you wanted me to bake it? We didn't want you to eat a cold dinner...." I quickly left that situation after a year. I shouldn't have to clean behind and cook for people who are older than me even if my gender is a woman.
Goals: Get out of this house with my husband and son and have a healthy pregnancy. Thanks reading. 👍🏾
I'll go first, this is a toxic and crazy situation. Get ready.....
Does anyone here live with a toxic roommate? I'm literally at my witts end here, I hate to play the race card but he's never treated his previous roommates like this. I even went out of my way to buy my own things ( TV, internet router, stove etc. ) so I won't use his. He says we're welcome to use his stuff but let him have a bad day at work and see us relaxing he'll take it away. When we rebought everything he was so pissed, I knew he used this tactic to throw his weight around - he finally admitted to it in May or June.
I work my ass off, I can pay for my own **** and I did. He makes my husband and my life hell, he's miserable he's single, car-less, and works in the sun all day.
After 15 years of "getting his credit right" he finally bought the house from my husband - the original ( verbal ) agreement was he would buy the house from my husband in a year, 2 at max.
He's been a raging passive aggressive ******* for the last 4 years. Slamming anything and everything, punching holes in the walls, cursing me out, my mother ( who only came over to help clean a house she doesn't stay here ), his best friend since High School ( my husband ), hell even his elderly father.
He has broken ALL my babygates then had the audacity to tell me my son needs more free roam around the house. I can't do that since he broke the bathroom babygate lock, locks to the cabinet with chemicals, etc. Even broke my flat screen TV, $500. He refused to admit it was him until a week later surrounded by my husbands family so I had to act like it wasn't a big deal.
These last few months has been utter hell, his original plan was buy the house and give us a 30 day notice. "THIS IS MY HOUSE NOW! I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT AND SAY WHAT I WANT!" Now that he has bought the house, the mortgage has sky rocketed ( To be fair, I suggested to my husband we kick him out. Keep the house with low mortgage and get a different roommate ). He didn't want to **** him over even tho he's been ****ing us over the last 4 years.
I go out of my way to wear headphones constantly so I can't hear him yell, which upsets him even more. He throws a tantrum then expects us to drop everything and see how he's doing, I've been crying over the deaths of my dad, foster dad and recently grandma and he could careless I was crying. I didn't want a hug or anything, I just thought he wouldn't be a heartless ******* for one day. I expected too much of him.
Anyway, two days ago he did a total 180, was nice and the ground rules was more than relaxed when originally he said the rules would be tight, our tv had to go from the living room etc. But "assured" us we didn't have to worry about moving our stuff out the master bedroom until mid November. My husband seemed hopeful while I was being gloomy about his attitude change, our roommate has bipolar. This is not the first time we saw him do a 180, him being friends with my husband since High School - my husband should had realized his behavior was temporary.
Yesterday, my husband and I are down bad with the flu, hacking and coughing all night. We didn't get any sleep, our roommate has been slamming and cursing at us. Now he wants to change rooms today. I told my husband this would happen!!
Our roommate said he'd make a makeshift bedroom for our son in the living room. I'm so tired of his crazy ideas, he's gonna make this a two story house and put a spiral stair case in the kitchen. Gonna knock down the wall in the dining area to make a grand double door entrance, gonna buy the next house over and connect it to our house. He would go to the dispensary and smoke me out so I would listen to these crazy ideas of his, after hearing his ideas for the 3rd time I stopped smoking with him. I always have my own weed ( which also upsets him ) I didn't NEED to smoke his weed, I just thought we could bond and form a friendship but I realized I don't need a toxic friendship like that, I did my best to stay away from home until my husband came home which he still didn't appreciate. As soon as we get home he starts slamming and yelling.
I go to work before him and get out before, I still didn't go home even tho I wanted to. Damned if I do, damned if I don't. Nothing will make him happy unless we leave.
He's jealous his "best friend" is a functioning alcoholic, married twice, has a kid, etc. When he's such a great guy who only does weed. Why is he someone like him single? No kids? A great guy like him? Who works inconsistently? Wow.
Sure, my husband shouldn't drink as much he's very loving, friendly, had the same job for 19 years. Choose your battles, me and my son adorable him to pieces.
He would hear us giggle at an anime we're watching, come out his room and yell. Wanted us to have lights out by 7PM - my husband doesn't get home until 4:30PM - 5PM depending on traffic. He hated when we play video games together, he said I was just in it for my husbands money - I bought my husband a gaming PC for $900 ( pre-built ), a switch during the pandemic for $500. I help him out with bills, we both got our own cars ( which our roommate hates since he doesn't have a car and relies on his dad to drive him to work and pick him up ), I'm a security supervisor do 50 hours a week or more. I have no need to play the "buy me everything daddy" mentality card.
He's so upset we're all friends with my husband's ex wife and her man- they have a kid together, they treat us better than he does and our sons love each other. I suspect my roommate and the ex wife had feelings for each other. I have heard a lot of people say our roommates name but only the ex wife will....I wanna use fake names. For example say his name is James, everyone only calls him James. She calls him Jimmy every time we talk about him, whenever our roommate mentions my husband's ex he gets so upset lol. "That bitch! Shes scum! I hope she dies!" Whole nine yards - I had to ask my husband, jokingly. "Did you marry her and she cheat on you or did HE marry her and he's still upset she cheated?"
He can never have a conversation with people, he LOVES to passive aggressively talk to his dog about how terrible my husband and I. He screamed at my mom, an elderly lady and all my husband said was: "Stop being an *******." He almost completely lost it and punched my husband but ended up punching the wall.
I have had two miscarriages due to stress, the only thing that casuing me stress is our roommate. I don't mind getting called the N word and yelled at by crackheads while at work. But it's beyond stressful to deal with that, come home to only more yelling.
He's also pissed my husband and I work inside? He decided on his job trade over 30 years ago, I don't want to work outside in the heat so guess what? I choose a job where I wouldn't be outside, this is like me being mad at office workers for having it "easy and air conditioned".
I have had 4 roommate in the past, before this I thought my worse roommates was when I was working 2 jobs, the other 2 were at 1 job, 15 - 25 hours a week. I would deliver pizza, come home for an hour to find my roommate on my PC - He said just give him a few and he'll be off. I would end up saying forget it and go to job #2 until 10PM.
I would come home and was expected to do ALL the cleaning and cooking, I even set-up meals they just had to throw in the oven on their days off and I still would get home and the oldest roommate said: "Oh you wanted me to bake it? We didn't want you to eat a cold dinner...." I quickly left that situation after a year. I shouldn't have to clean behind and cook for people who are older than me even if my gender is a woman.
Goals: Get out of this house with my husband and son and have a healthy pregnancy. Thanks reading. 👍🏾
