Okay. I want to be able to have the tab behavior of Firefox on Safari. If I click an external link, I want it to open in the same window on Safari. If I right click, I want the new tab to not be focused.
i don't know if it's possible to openexternal links in new tabs and not new windows, but if you cmd-click a new link, the link will be in a new tab in the background. if you cmd-shift-click a link, the tab will be at the front. you can invert this behavior in the tabs preferences of safari.