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As far as I know, it's not possible. It may be possible with a jailbroken iPhone, but I'd doubt it (although I never cease to be amazed by the amount of tweaks there are for jailbreakers).

Can I ask why you wish to schedule the updates?
 
You can opt not to update when the message appears and then, when convenient, go to settings > general > software update.
 
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