Here's my story: I'm 21, I go to College and study Engineering. I'd say I'm a catch for a girl. I'm smart, very sociable, and athletic. Genuinely a nice guy, but I have my competetive spurts where I can be an ass. Anyways, I met a girl a few months back (October). She is a Freshman at my school (I am a 3rd year). We have a bunch of mutual friends, and I've heard about her. She is a really, really sweet girl, has great morals, lots of girlfriends, very conservative. I find her very attractive (which she is, friends had told me about her before I met her). For a few weeks, I would talk to her when i saw her, but she was shy. She's really funny, but it takes her a bit to open up. After about 3 weeks of working at her, I asked her out for coffee one night. It was a big deal to her (and her girlfriends), because I am made out to be this "macho" 3rd year Engineer, blah blah blah. So we got out, have a great time, and she tells me how she is happy I asked her out. We go on a few more dates in the ensuing weeks, end up kissing, etc. No sex or anything, but we both are passionate about eachother. Now, fast-foreward to Dec 1. I get a job offer to work for 6 months for an Aerospace Engineering company about 5 hours from my school. The offer is great, the pay is amazing, and I'm living in a spectacular city. I couldn't turn the offer down, because I will be back at school next Fall. I told her that I had to take the offer, and she was sad, but she said she'd still be there when I got back. So, since I left (Beginning of December), I visited her once in her hometown, and saw her one other time. We don't talk hardly ever (on the phone or anything), but when we do see eachother, we pickup where we left off. Holding hands and all, almost like we're a couple. I don't want to date her while I'm away, because of a few reasons: 1) She's a freshman, and I think she needs to have her own fun with no "guy" around for a while. 2) I'm away and I don't want to start a relationship on those premises. When I return in the Fall, I will date her if she wants. Anyways, Valnetines day is ocming up. I'm debating on getting her something or not. Part of me wants to send her flowers, but the other part doesn't want to seem like a desperate guy that is chasing a young girl, if you guys understand what I'm saying. This may sound weird, but I feel like sending flowers puts her on a pedastool, where she might feel like she has "got me". Sure, I do like her, but I'm not sure I want to succumb to that quite yet. Any advice here?