Okay so I finally decided a few weeks or so going to the app estore and various shops playing with the iPhone XS Max and the iPhone XR. It took a good few weeks to finally make the choice. I decided with the XS Max because I'm used to big phones in my hand and I just loved the natural feel and how easy I can carry it. I know many here say that its supposed to be a heavy phone, but not for me. I compared both the XR and the XS Max, and I have to say that the XR was way too light for me. I am not sure why this is, maybe it's because I'm coming from the 7 Plus , that holding something lighter doesn't feel righter. I was orginally going to go with the XR to save on price, but lose out on some features like a nice screen to watch HD content on my plex server, and the ability to portrait mode everything I see. (I'm a casual photographer). Getting it next week, hopefully Tuesday. In store purchase. I'm reading a lot of the pluses and the negatives online and on here too so it has been a very very difficult decision, but I finally cemented my decision today. Can't wait!