So. Who plans the dates in your relationship?

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  1. AppleLover9o macrumors regular

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    You or her?(or him if you're a girl).

    Just curious.
     
  2. Rolvag macrumors regular

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    I (a married man of 24 yrs) plans 99% of all dates for us
     
  3. AppleLover9o thread starter macrumors regular

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    You're the guy, correct?

    So it's right that I (the guy) plan all, er most, of the dates for us?
     
  4. Disc Golfer macrumors 6502a

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    It's a matter of perspective of whether it's "right" or not but if you don't do the planning you're gonna get dumped.
     
  5. the-oz-man macrumors 6502

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    Married 10 years and my wife plans 90% of our dates. That's her talent and I reserve the other 10% for surprises. It works for us.
     
  6. AppleLover9o thread starter macrumors regular

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    So is it more what works? Not about a stereotype?
     
  7. MattSepeta macrumors 65816

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    Her

    Typical situation: She asks what I want to do, I throw out a few suggestions. She instantly shoots them down as being stupid, comes up with her own idea, I say yes (Always do!) then she complains how I never plan anything :p
     
  8. toxictrix macrumors 6502a

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    Sounds about right.
     
  9. MarkCollette macrumors 68000

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    Whoever has the inspiration should make the date plans. If no one's kicking in, then I'd say it's up to the guy.
     
  10. Xavier macrumors 68020

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    I plan the expensive ones, she plans the fun ones
     
  11. danielcox macrumors member

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    Usually my right hand but the left tries to get in there sometimes.
     
  12. c-Row macrumors 65816

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    ^ This.
     
  13. abijnk macrumors 68040

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    This describes me and my husband, but I'm in the girls position. :D

    Problem is he has the most unoriginal ideas ever. Dinner and a movie was romantic 7 years ago and is ok every once in a while, but really??? :rolleyes:
     
  14. samiwas macrumors 65816

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    We are sort of like that. She says "I want to do something". I say "What kind of something?" "I don't know...something fun." Since our work is freelance, we have a lot of free time. We have done everything in town multiple times, so there's not much left. I always know when the "I want to do something fun" speech comes out, that she's ready for yet another trip. I don't have near the excitement level about travel that she does (since I had a 100% travel job for 7.5 years straight).

    I wouldn't say either one of us really plans things more than the other. She wants me to plan all of it, but she knew damn well when she married me that I'm not the exciting-day-planning type of guy. But we try to work it out.
     
  15. maflynn Moderator

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    Its a joint affair, the wife and I discuss what we both want to do. Sometimes she'll want to go to a movie and we do, and sometimes I want just dinner, which we do.
     
  16. Dagless macrumors Core

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    Either/or! We generally watch films that both of us want to see, I'll eat anywhere so we eat where she wants. It's usually me who plans picnics and hikes... the more rural stuff.
     
  17. Synchromesh macrumors 6502a

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    I get to do it when I take out girls almost always. That way I'm in control and know what's going on, although I sometimes give them a choice. Tried giving one girl freedom and she brought me to a club which I hated as I generally hate clubs.
     
  18. Mugambo macrumors 6502

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    Her grandma!





















    Waste of time thread. Replied only because I couldn't resist the reply :D
     
  19. catfish743 macrumors 6502

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    The man in typical heteronormative society I feel creates the dates.
    So he and I both talk about it. I suppose the male wins both ways. ;)

    (Thanks for assuming in the OP)
     
  20. Abyssgh0st macrumors 68000

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    I do (the guy). She always says she hates choosing. :rolleyes:
     
  21. wvuwhat macrumors 65816

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    Win.

    I'm slowly finding out that I'm enjoying life much more being single. This...is after 2 years of singleness and 5, previous to that, being in a relationship.
     
  22. Darth.Titan macrumors 68030

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    My girlfriend and I have a stock set of about 5 different activities/locations that we both enjoy regularly, and I'm usually content with any of those most nights. However we both keep our ears open for something out of the norm that might be going on in town, and we're pretty much even when it comes to new suggestions. I guess it's about a 50/50 draw.

    Most nights out end up the same way though... naked! :D
     
  23. AppleLover9o thread starter macrumors regular

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    Well, my lady is mormon so it doesn't end naked haha.

    Thank you all for your insight, I liked to see the diversity, but also the similarities.

    It really is a joint amount of work between both the girl and the guy haha.

    Thanks again!
     
  24. dmr727 macrumors G3

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    Dates? I'm married. I look forward to hallway sex.

    But seriously, it's a little of both. We like doing the same kinds of things, so usually when one of us has a suggestion, the other is all for it.
     

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