Around these parts, I think you’d find more fans of Silicon Macs were they not part of such a paranoid, closed system which, cryptographically, mates/locks every internal component together; were they not sullied by soldered storage and memory (unified or not, whatever); were they not stiff-arming their parts vendors from selling replacement parts (to any party which isn’t Apple); and were they not hellbent on a three-year turnover cycle for not only the hardware, but also the operating environment (which, real talk, has never been a stable bedrock throughout Craig Federighi’s watch).
Of course it would be better if we could upgrade memory and storage down the road and if repairability would be better (the latter, by the way, is a fundamental user right in my opinion).
IMHO, though, things are simple: Apple made both a business and technology choice of switching to its own silicon to control both HW and SW/OS as well as of adopting an ARM-based big.LITTLE architecture along with a SoC-based implementation to put emphasis on performance/Watt as its selling point. And it succeeded in that.
Now, this approach has some pros and some cons, there are trade-offs as it is commonly the case. You weight them and decide whether the provided products suit you or not, as per usual.
Still, even under this monstrosity of non-upgradeability and limited repairability, AS macs are better products than Intel macs - for me at least.
I will not go down the rabbit hole of "free will vs. evil company with strong marketing". The reason is the following: we take decisions under some context, and usually we are not fully-aware about that context! In relation to the above, we decide much more often with "heart", "gut" or whatever instead of pure logic than we admit to ourselves. Furthermore, the aforementioned context typically has some external influence from marketing, in a smaller or bigger extent (this applies to PC users as well - I know a few guys that want the latest 14th Gen Intel CPU with a gazillion P-cores, even though they just use a computer for YouTube, Skype, Chrome, Facebook, Word and PowerPoint!) On top of that, having a computer and Wi-Fi connection might be considered nowadays a somewhat fundamental human need (at least in cases where other issues such as shelter, food etc. have been addressed), but in specific decisions like PC or Mac, Intel Mac or AS Mac, M3 Pro or M3 Max etc. fake needs might be easily introduced, triggered by a multitude of reasons (incl. marketing/advertisement).
In my case, I switched to Mac because 2 Windows laptops of mine crashed in a course of 2 years. I got an 2014 MBA. I had Matlab, Mosek and CVX running optimization algorithms, 173 tabs open in Mozilla, and about 10 latex files, 30 pdf files, 5 word documents, and 5 ppt files open and it run smoothly as hell! Plus, the OS, the trackpad and the screen were a more than welcome change over my previous laptops. Next year, I got a used Mac mini from a colleague (he switched to the "trashcan" Mac Pro) with 4 GB of RAM! Fast forward today, I got a MBP 16" M3 Pro 12C with 36 GB/512 GB. Besides the amazing monitor, speakers, trackpad etc., a simulation that needed 10 hours in the MBA (and something similar in the Mac mini), it took 3.5 minutes for the MBP! On top of that, the machine "feels" premium in everything. And in contrast to Windows equivalents, its battery lasts forever, its performance does not drop a bit when on battery, its fans are noiseless and it doesn't get warm even under heavy parallel optimization in Matlab with all cores fully engaged and a vast volume of variables!
It is still overpriced, though, as excellent as it is.
To sum-up this very long reply (sorry about that): you simply weigh pros vs cons, as with any product. If non-upgradeability and limited repairability are a showstopper for you, it is completely understandable. For me, given the excellent durability and quality of Apple products, in general (with few exceptions, of course), I targeted the model that better suits my use cases (I have no need for M3 Max), I maxed out the memory, and I was good to go. The pricing was more of a concern, simply because it feels unreasonable and greedy. However, I wanted to avoid laptops that crash, get hot, can't be used unplugged for more than few hours etc. (I know, it is based on my limited experience from my "bubble", so it is just that: my experience, it doesn't generalize).