Thanks for the kind words of hope gang.
I don't want to miss lead anyone, my children are not autistic, or even close, might have a slight LD issue with 2, probably got it from me.
I don't put credence in any single announcement, so I am not following or promoting this at all, just throwing it out on the table for discussion. I know there is a diverse crowd here and some extremely bright professionals with good info for us all.
My children are all vacinated, but just like a new OS or update, I waited one year (or there abouts-been 8 yrs) on the chicken pox vacine to see the broad effects before allowed my first born to get the vaccine. I am not one that is quick to adopt cutting edge medical products, something I got from years in the military and those lovely anthrax vacines! ( i was able to avoid those! happily)
I have found that you must arm yourself with as much info on all medical matters as possible. You may be lucky and get fabulous advice, but I have found the opposite. Here is an example.
With our 3rd child my wife got a call that the blood screening during pregnantcy indicated a chance that our child would be
trisomy 13 . Well after the uncontrolled crying of my wife, a lady that called would not talk to me cause I was not carrying the baby, my wife kept putting the phone down to cry. Well guess what, that screening has so many variables based on general population info that they might have also said there was a chance of her being Einstien.
Then my wife got a virus while pregnant, called
fifths disease . Well with the trisomy thang and the fifth disease problem we started to get very worried about our baby. Now my wife would never choose an abortion-so for you out there thinking about this-please read to the end.
Well, they wanted to do an
amnio to see if the baby had the trisomy problem. Now things get interesting, I was knowledgeable enough to know that an amnio can (not often) cause a miscarriage. So I asked 3 different doctors over a 2 day period what the odd of a miscarriage were, (I am not making this up, as in HeeHaw 'truth is stranger than fiction") I got 3 different answers ( they were all obgyn's in the same practice) the answers I got were 1 in 300, 2 in 300, 3 in 300. Ok so I got the feeling it was low, but possible. Now the next question is, if the baby has trisomy is there anything we can do to "cure" or help her by knowing it from the amnio. Answer-NO. Well why do it? If you want to abort. (Notice if you don't ask no one will tell you, you just go get an amnio) So we could get peace of mind or horrors, either way my wife would not abort, and the amnio would increase the odds of losing a possibly wonderful child. So what to do?
I am very lucky, I have a cousin in Charleston who is a pre-natal surgeon, he told me the condition manifests itself with a heart problem most often. So he hooked my up with a Dr who happen to be a world renown fetal heart sonographer who worked at Wake Forest Baptist hospital in my home town (luck again) who after the sonography said "no problem with that baby and trisomy". But the fifths disease could cause other issues (can't remember them now).
What I want those reading this to understand is; know what you will and won't do, know what and why you are having a test BEFORE you have it, UNDERSTAND the consequences of each test and procedure BEFORE you have it-don't blindly do it cause some Dr said to. We could have had an amnio to see if our baby had trisomy based on a VERY LAME screening and had a miscarriage of my perfectly healthy 6 yr old Miranda Grace.
BECAREFUL AND WEARY, BE YOUR BEST ADVOCATE-CAUSE SOMEONE ELSE MIGHT NOT BE.
Sorry for the length of this, but it still burns me up, that we might have had lost our daughter that I discribe as "the nicest person I know" to our friends.
Here is our beautiful Miranda at 4 yrs old, she is 6 now.