Still can’t decide.
I’ve never had one of the bigger phones. So the weight concerns me more than the size.
Both have pros and cons for me.
Pro max has more features, better camera and screen etc.
14 plus is lighter. Colours are nicer, it’s cheaper. Battery will be better.
I’ve had every blue iPhone. Blue is my favourite colour. So if I got the pro max I know I’d be wishing I got the blue 14 plus. But if I get the plus, I’ll be wishing I got the max with the better features.
(I know nobody can decide for me, just don’t know any other apple addicts who I can have a rant to).