I do the same thing with my server. Sync to my server and would like to be able to sync to the iTunes on the Lappy as well. Apple unfortunately only allows device to sync to one account/location at a time, so if you decide to transfer to laptop it is full restore and transfer as prior user suggested. Now if you just want the music and data on the laptop, there is an easier way which is using the home sharing of iTunes. The downside of this is that is only works while on the same intranet network and not across the internet. I have this set up at home so all of my computers share the media from the server, and I don't have to waste storage space maintaining separate libraries and going through the hassle of making sure that each system is kept current with the latest media installed, it automatically is shared when I put it on the server. I can't wait for Apple to authorize the cloud sync and then I will be happy and not have to worry about the above issues and limitations.