Using someone else's iPhone

[960design]

How do you see this? Is sharing phones in your relationship something normal? Or are phones considered private? And why?

I've never thought about it. If my girlfriend wanted to see my phone, she could ask or just glance at it while snuggled up next to me in front of the fire. If I wanted to see her phone, I'm sure it would be no issue. I have never asked though.

Why would I want to look at her phone when I have my own to mess around with?

 

[Puonti]

No access because that’s our view on trust. At the same time neither has any issues with passing a personal device to the other, unlocked, when there’s need for it.

So can’t really pick any of the options.

 

[pakupakuman]

One thing to take in consideration with someone's significant other of having the access to iPhone if it's locked or secured, would be the need to access certain information inside the phone if there was ever an emergency for contacts or medical information.

I know that doesn't apply to everybody, but I do know those who share their passwords in case they need to access their phones in case they need to contact other family members for an emergency.

In addition to the above, I had my wife's doctors' numbers and list of medications on my phone as well.

 

[Apple-of-my-eye]

My husband and I have the ability to access each other phones. He knows my password and I have my thumb print saved for his Touch ID.

Neither one of us uses it to check on each other- but when he’s driving- I can reply to texts for him. He doesn’t really have a need to get into mine- but if he ever did- he knows how to.

 

[960design]

In addition to the above, I had my wife's doctors' numbers and list of medications on my phone as well.

iPhone has already thought of this for family, first responders and hospital staff. It's called:
MedicalID

If you have not set it up, please do so as soon as possible.

 

[deany]

I don't really ever have a reason to use my wife's iPhone so I put the last option although we both have touch id on each others phones just in case of emergency - we also share location with Find My Friends and send Waze notifications to each other when we're out and about - of our own free will.

So I should probably change my vote - but I never use her phone unless she asks me to text her friend something and I her while I'm driving.

OK I changed my vote to the top option. lol.

Yeah, if you can't trust your significant other, they have no business being your significant other.

Off topic, sorry OP!
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Cheers

 

[mrklaw]

We don’t regularly read through emails or messages, but we often have the need to check an incoming message when we’re eg expecting our kids to be in touch. Or if I want my wife to refer to a photo/email it’s easier for me to just let her grab my phone

 

[Apple OC]

in today's world ...

who doesn't have their own phone?
who doesn't keep their phone close by?

 

[Apple_Robert]

I am not in a relationship at the moment. When the next one happens and we enter the ‘serious’ stage, I will provide her my PIN for emergency need etc. provided she passed the FBI background check.

 

[Martyimac]

I answered yes but technically, my wife doesn't have an iPhone but if she did, she would let me use it just like I let her use mine. In fact, i have taken all security off my phone so if she needed to use my phone in an emergency, she could without having to worry about face prints, finger prints or passcodes.

 

[Resqu2]

Cuts both ways. If you have a partner who doesn't respect your privacy and doesn't believe that you have nothing to hide, you chose the wrong partner. If you need to have access to each others devices to prove there's trust, there's deeper issues elsewhere.

I've absolutely no problem letting my partner use my phone without me being present if she needs to. 99.99% of the time we are together, she'll have her phone with her and use her own anyway. On that phone she has a shared gmail account for our common contacts and and a shared e-mail we can use for odd things. She has Google Play Music that's a family plan, and we share all of our photos via Google Photos. I rarely use social media crap, so only personal stuff left is messages, mostly to people we both know.

Thing is, I don't need or want to know my partners passcode. Just like I don't need or want to know her computer password, or Facebook, or Instagram. It's private information and I completely respect that. By the same token, she doesn't need to know mine, and she respects that too.

What about in an emergency? Or even worse something happens to one of you? In today’s activation lock world you or your partner would be potentially throwing away thousands of dollars worth of electronics. Me and my Wife share our codes, have nothing to hide and generally don’t use each other’s phones but do sometimes.

 

[Jjayf]

We’ve been married a long time. I regularly access my wife’s phone to update it and perform housekeeping tasks. She is tech impaired and relies on me to pair and update and such.
She knows my passcode but almost never access my device. She might answer a call or text for me if I’m busy or driving.
We share a bank account and a bathroom. There are no secrets.

 

[iOS XXX]

It does what it does and it works as it works. That’s it. Boo boo. Get one or the other one or don’t get one at all.

 

[44267547]

I am not in a relationship at the moment. When the next one happens and we enter the ‘serious’ stage, I will provide her my PIN for emergency need etc. provided she passed the FBI background check.

Rather you're being facetious or not, I don't exactly know. If You are being serious, I'm not sure why you would need to subject your significant other to an FBI background check? Not to mention, an FBI background check will not specify any local ordinances that could pertain to theft, counterfeiting, fraud, etc. FBI is strictly criminal, but it does not list other related crimes subject to local ordinance violations for shop lifting for example.

Most states offer court access systems for either a free or paid record check that indicates all criminal and ordinance related involvements.

In my state, we have a court access system that is free to the public, and all you need to do is enter their full name/DOB and it will indicate any traffic, civil, divorce, restraining order, criminal and ordinance related involvements.

As someone who works in law-enforcement with extensive experience, FBI background checks Are primarily used for criminal nature involving more serious crimes with felonies and firearm purchases. It's limited in scope beyond anything else.

 

[Apple_Robert]

Rather you're being facetious or not, I don't exactly know. If You are being serious, I'm not sure why you would need to subject your significant other to an FBI background check? Not to mention, an FBI background check will not specify any local ordinances that could pertain to theft, counterfeiting, fraud, etc. FBI is strictly criminal, but it does not list other related crimes subject to local ordinance violations for shop lifting for example.

Most states offer court access systems for either a free or paid record check that indicates all criminal and ordinance related involvements.

In my state, we have a court access system that is free to the public, and all you need to do is enter their full name/DOB and it will indicate any traffic, civil, divorce, restraining order, criminal and ordinance related involvements.

As someone who works in law-enforcement with extensive experience, FBI background checks Are primarily used for criminal nature involving more serious crimes with felonies and firearm purchases. It's limited in scope beyond anything else.

I was being facetious about the FBI albeit I do state background checks like you mentioned. I should have used a smiley to let people know.

 

[haruhiko]

It’s not healthy when you need complete access to your partner's phone. Even in there Touch ID era, we don't access each other's phone without explicit permission. It's called mutual respect. Everyone has the right to privacy.

 

[Martyimac]

If you are in a relationship where you aren't willing to share the most intimate details of yourself, you, and especially the other person, are in the wrong relationship.

PS YMMV