then go ahead and put the TV on your list too!
proper 2011 etiquette means that at least somebody is going to be offended no matter what you put on the list
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Wedding Registry Etiquette?
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then go ahead and put the TV on your list too!
proper 2011 etiquette means that at least somebody is going to be offended no matter what you put on the list
If it's your party/reception and you feel uncomfortable/are happy not receiving any gifts just tell them you're not setting one up. It doesn't matter what others are telling you. Alternatively you could ask for people to send a donation to charity if they must contribute.
To be honest I find the whole registry thing quite gauche. These days its a bit of a relic when most couples are living out of home and have amassed all they need well before they are married. As pointed out earlier in the thread it is verging on rampant consumerism.
Sometimes friends will go in together to get a "big ticket" item on a registry. Is that acceptable to the culture in Japan or would it be considered in poor taste for guest to go in on a gift together?
I don't necessarily think it would be rude to let people know through the grapevine that you don't have a place to live yet and gift cards would be helpful as opposed to actual gifts that could sit in storage for a while.
I don't necessarily think it would be rude to let people know through the grapevine that you don't have a place to live yet and gift cards would be helpful as opposed to actual gifts that could sit in storage for a while.
then go ahead and put the TV on your list too!
proper 2011 etiquette means that at least somebody is going to be offended no matter what you put on the list
LOL, isn't that the truth. One thing that would be immensely useful is a GOOD Craftsman torque wrench, but I don't want to register at a third place just for that. Ah well.
They could certainly donate it to the charity of puma1552.
I don't know if it would be poor taste in Japan, can't see why it would be but like I said, here it's strictly cash gifts to let the couple spend as they please at their convenience.
I did email my dad's lady and told her we set up the registries at Target and Bed, Bath, and Beyond, and also threw in there that gift cards would be great alternate options for either of these places, or also IKEA/Best Buy since eventually we will need furniture and "some kind of TV". lol.
The TV we want isn't available at Target, so that solves the registry issue of that...besides, the rice cooker is our big ticket item I suppose.
But Target does have a nice Sony BR player for $180......
EDIT: I don't know if it matters but I should also say, this is the only gift opportunity for us, it's not like we had people handing envelopes of cash to us at the wedding, and then bridal showers, and then reception gifts or whatever, etc. etc.
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I've seen items that run upwards of a grand on registries for both wedding and baby. I say put it. It can't be any worse than those *******s who list thousands of household items that they'd never use or buy on their own.
Yeah, that's kind of it; we live *very* simply. I currently have a $25 toaster oven, a free microwave, a $15 blender (POS), one frying pan with a missing handle (ugh), one $1 cutting knife, two IKEA plates, two IKEA bowls, and two IKEA gratin dishes, and a small IKEA silverware set. 6 glasses (only need 2 IMO), two little pots with no lids, a cheap iron and a tabletop ironing board. My stove here is one burner, my fridge/freezer is smaller than what most have in their dorms.
And honestly, it's all you need. Sure, a better/more versatile/complete set of pots/pans would be nice, and some baking pans and maybe a powered hand mixer, and better middle of the road versions of all the little appliances I have instead of the cheapest of the cheap (blender is simply "on" and "off" and can't crush ice, irritating), but we definitely don't need a whole slew of crap kitchen gadgets we will never use.
So far on the registry we have:
Toaster--$50
Blender that can crush ice--$40
NICE rice cooker, a wife essential--$235
Pretty awesome bagless vacuum--$80
Toaster Oven--$40
Iron--$33
Full-size ironing board--$35
Pizza Pan--$15
Pizza Cutter--$10
Shopvac--$35
Charcoal Grill--$70
Grille Tools--$30
Water Kettle--$25
5 piece knife set--$23
Beyond that, there isn't a whole lot I feel. We found a nice stainless/nonstick pot/pan set for $150, and then maybe some cookie sheets/baking utensils, a little set of kitchen utensils, a bathroom scale, a cake mixer, and a griddle thing for cooking some Japanese okonomiyaki and that's about it...obviously we need everything since we are coming to America with a couple suitcases each and a few boxes of shipped clothes/shoes and are basically homeless and starting out with absolutely nothing, but again how much does a person need? It's so nice to know I have next to nothing weighing me down here, and to just buy things if/as I really need them. Like I said we will need bedding/towels and stuff but again we feel that's dependent upon where we live and the interior themes that we feel work with the living space/lighting we will have available. Can't really buy sheets/comforters anyway until we buy a bed we like and know the size, which is another thing we can't get til we get a place.
I'd like one cheapo 3-4 drawer storage bin thing for the garage to keep my car detailing microfibers in, but I want to see those in person first I guess.
We have about 40 people, just small, and they are saying we should have 80 gifts on the list...??
it is ok if i listed Ferrari on my gift registry
Only if you are registered here. Otherwise it would be gauche.
EDIT: What?? I respond to a resurrected thread, and the post quoted is not there??
I'm finally losing it.
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I don't think there are any hard and fast rules about wedding registry etiquette. As what is and what is not considered appropriate varies among different cultures, regions, ethnicity, religions &c. What blend of theses you are will affect what items are or are not appropriate.
Since you mentioned yen for cash I am only assuming you live in Japan. In which case someone from the US, UK, Brazil &c could not say what is appropriate.
I say put whatever you want down. You can even put a car on the list no one has to actually buy it for you. Just give your guests plenty of options and they'll get you what they want to get you and spend whatever they are willing to spend.
I was surprised by the people on this thread saying cash is a common gift or still brought gifts to the wedding. Every wedding I have been to guests bought items on the registry through the stores website and had the gift delivered to them. That way they aren't burdened with having to take the stuff home. Instead they could get drunk, have their wedding night and leave the hotel the next day for the honeymoon.
Also it seemed like very bad etiquette buying something not in the registry. Since it may be something they already own or have no need or want for. Unlike the items in the registry.
Since you mentioned yen for cash I am only assuming you live in Japan. In which case someone from the US, UK, Brazil &c could not say what is appropriate.
I say put whatever you want down. You can even put a car on the list no one has to actually buy it for you. Just give your guests plenty of options and they'll get you what they want to get you and spend whatever they are willing to spend.
I was surprised by the people on this thread saying cash is a common gift or still brought gifts to the wedding. Every wedding I have been to guests bought items on the registry through the stores website and had the gift delivered to them. That way they aren't burdened with having to take the stuff home. Instead they could get drunk, have their wedding night and leave the hotel the next day for the honeymoon.
Also it seemed like very bad etiquette buying something not in the registry. Since it may be something they already own or have no need or want for. Unlike the items in the registry.
"finally"? Depends on how you define that word.
iJohn, your decay and descent into senility has been a continuing progression for some time now.
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"finally"? Depends on how you define that word.
Well, being able to speculate on the event is certainly preferable to the alternative, not seeing it coming at all.
Progression good, degradation bad.
"finally"? Depends on how you define that word.
"finally" means when ijohnhenry realizes it....not when the rest of the world notices it
"finally" means when ijohnhenry realizes it....not when the rest of the world notices it
Not sure if it works this way with a wedding registry, but...
I was having a hard time with putting things on our baby registry until I found out that the store will give you a 10% off coupon good for anything that wasn't purchased for you. That made it a lot easier, and I felt one hell of a lot less guilty putting more expensive items on the registry.
I was having a hard time with putting things on our baby registry until I found out that the store will give you a 10% off coupon good for anything that wasn't purchased for you. That made it a lot easier, and I felt one hell of a lot less guilty putting more expensive items on the registry.
