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What to Do About Boring Friends?

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Flapjacks

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Mar 2, 2013
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Hello. Just wanted to vent a bit.

Has any experienced this before? Im 21 and a senior in college at the moment. 5-6 of my friends just got Halo 4 and thats ALL they want to do. They don't want to go out and grab beers. Go to the club. Go (attempt) to pick up women. All they want to do is sit home and play Halo.

Kind of stuck on what to do. I ask if they want to go out but all they do is talk to each other regarding what achievements to get, what modes to play, etc.

Is it wrong of my to say they're being extremely lame?
 
Flapjacks said:
Hello. Just wanted to vent a bit.

Has any experienced this before? Im 21 and a senior in college at the moment. 5-6 of my friends just got Halo 4 and thats ALL they want to do. They don't want to go out and grab beers. Go to the club. Go (attempt) to pick up women. All they want to do is sit home and play Halo.

Kind of stuck on what to do. I ask if they want to go out but all they do is talk to each other regarding what achievements to get, what modes to play, etc.

Is it wrong of my to say they're being extremely lame?
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To be fair, I wouldn't want to go to the club, or go get Miller Light beers either.

You should just play with them.
 
Why not just go out on your own and start making new friends whom share the same interests as you do? Leave them to Halo.
 
Not wrong of you to think that at all.

I had a similar situation whilst working in Saudi Arabia. A number of my colleagues were into gambling; poker, horse racing etc. They would watch the horses on the TV all the time, have the races live streamed on the internet. When not actually watching the races they were looking at the form, discussing races and potential bets. They would try to include me my explaining things like "overound" and the various strategies they were using. All very, very boring.

My solution......hang round with them less!
 
eric/ said:
To be fair, I wouldn't want to go to the club, or go get Miller Light beers either.

You should just play with them.
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Not just cheap beers. We have a couple of nice beer spots here. But its not beer but more of the fact that they just don't want to go out and do stuff.

But yeah, I do play with them. I even have the game (just bought last week). I just haven't been able to immerse myself like they do/did.

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SandboxGeneral said:
Why not just go out on your own and start making new friends whom share the same interests as you do? Leave them to Halo.
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Yeah thats not a bad idea. There are bound to be some people who share the same interest on campus. Its just unfortunate cause they're one of my "closer" group.
 
Flapjacks said:
Hello. Just wanted to vent a bit.

Has any experienced this before? Im 21 and a senior in college at the moment. 5-6 of my friends just got Halo 4 and thats ALL they want to do. They don't want to go out and grab beers. Go to the club. Go (attempt) to pick up women. All they want to do is sit home and play Halo.

Kind of stuck on what to do. I ask if they want to go out but all they do is talk to each other regarding what achievements to get, what modes to play, etc.

Is it wrong of my to say they're being extremely lame?
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They sound like the kind people I'd get along with.
 
Flapjacks said:
Yeah thats not a bad idea. There are bound to be some people who share the same interest on campus. Its just unfortunate cause they're one of my "closer" group.
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I understand that. You don't need to abandon these people because they play Halo - or don't want to do the other things you'd like to, but you can expand your friend base instead. Just add to it, instead of replacing friends.
 
NathanMuir said:
They sound like the kind people I'd get along with.
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Well to be fair to me, they also don't seem to want to just kick back and relax over some cold beers or go out to play some ball/frisbee. But yes, Im aware that I'm coming off as whiney. Like one of the previous posters said, this could be remedied by finding new friends. :eek:



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ADDING to my friends. Lol edited my post to take in account what sandbox said.
 
Flapjacks said:
Well to be fair to me, they also don't seem to want to just kick back and relax over some cold beers or go out to play some ball/frisbee. But yes, Im aware that I'm coming off as whiney. Like one of the previous posters said, this could be remedied by finding new friends. :eek:



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ADDING to my friends. Lol edited my post to take in account what sandbox said.
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I can certainly appreciate that. I do like the beers.
 
Well, personally, I've always found clubs to be just about the most boring thing there is out there.
 
Flapjacks said:
Hello. Just wanted to vent a bit.

Has any experienced this before? Im 21 and a senior in college at the moment. 5-6 of my friends just got Halo 4 and thats ALL they want to do. They don't want to go out and grab beers. Go to the club. Go (attempt) to pick up women. All they want to do is sit home and play Halo.

Kind of stuck on what to do. I ask if they want to go out but all they do is talk to each other regarding what achievements to get, what modes to play, etc.

Is it wrong of my to say they're being extremely lame?
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Was never into that myself. Women maybe, but face it, most of those pick ups wouldn't be anything meaningful anyways.
 
DrNeroCF said:
Well, personally, I've always found clubs to be just about the most boring thing there is out there.
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Same. If I ever want to stand around like a moron with a drink in my hand and try to awkwardly talk to some broad when I can't even hear myself talk over the music, I'll give it a shot.
 
You need to find friends with similar interests. Im a big gamer so i tend to hang out with people that also enjoying gaming. That being said we still go out and do other stuff besides sitting at home an the Xbox all day.
 
Flapjacks said:
5-6 of my friends just got Halo 4 and thats ALL they want to do. They don't want to go out and grab beers. Go to the club. Go (attempt) to pick up women. All they want to do is sit home and play Halo.
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The mistake you are making is one that I used to make a lot: You are trying to fit one group of people into a set of experiences they aren't interested in.

The solution to this problem is to stop trying. Instead, you need to expand your circle of acquaintances: You can still keep your HALO-playing buddies to hang around with during the week. But you also need to develop a crew that goes to clubs and smooth-talks the ladies on weekends.

From time to time you can let your "friendship circles" overlap: Thats what parties are for.
 
Thanks for the replies guys! I should mention though. These WERE my friends who enjoyed going to the clubs, bonding over beers, playing frisbee outside. These were the friends that enjoyed watching baseball and college basketball. Its just once they bought Halo, all of it stopped. Before, (at least 4 of them) were always down to go out and have a good time but once they started playing Halo, everything just changed.
 
Boring friends?

Some nerve...being boring!

I have them killed.
 

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There are friends to go to the movies, others to play video games, other for clubbing.

the ones in video gaming will suck in picking up girls, the one in clubbing will be good picking up girls but do not expect them to be very intellectual in other matters.

That is why we just have to walk in life and be happy withing ourself.
 
If there is one thing I learned in college is that friends change. Interests change whether they are your interests or theirs.

Simple solution: make some new friends.
 
I can relate. A few years ago, a couple of my buddies started getting heavily into fighting games. They'd play every chance they get, go to tournaments, expect others to join in, watch videos online, visit forums etc.

Mind numbing. The rest of us started going out even if they didn't want to and they eventually got the message that maybe some of us like variation.
 
Maybe you are the boring friend who doesn't want to do what the rest of the group is doing. They seem to be having a good time playing Halo. Just find a new group to hang out with.
 
Flapjacks said:
Hello. Just wanted to vent a bit.

Has any experienced this before? Im 21 and a senior in college at the moment. 5-6 of my friends just got Halo 4 and thats ALL they want to do. They don't want to go out and grab beers. Go to the club. Go (attempt) to pick up women. All they want to do is sit home and play Halo.

Kind of stuck on what to do. I ask if they want to go out but all they do is talk to each other regarding what achievements to get, what modes to play, etc.

Is it wrong of my to say they're being extremely lame?
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Appreciate what you have. I'm in college also. And my friends all go out and get wasted every single day. I don't know how they are passing any of their classes. When it comes to "Nerdy" stuff like gaming... they are clueless.





I have nobody to play halo with :(
 
I'm with my main man Charlie Brooker on this one:

Charlie Brooker said:
Clubs are despicable. Cramped, overpriced furnaces with sticky walls and the latest idiot theme tunes thumping through the humid air so loud you can't hold a conversation, just bellow inanities at megaphone-level. And since the smoking ban, the masking aroma of cigarette smoke has been replaced by the overbearing stench of crotch sweat and hair wax.

Clubs are such insufferable dungeons of misery, the inmates have to take mood-altering substances to make their ordeal seem halfway tolerable. This leads them to believe they "enjoy" clubbing. They don't. No one does. They just enjoy drugs.

Drugs render location meaningless. Neck enough ketamine and you could have the best night of your life squatting in a shed rolling corks across the floor. And no one's going to search you on the way in. Why bother with clubs?

"Because you might get a shag," is the usual response. Really? If that's the only way you can find a partner - preening and jigging about like a desperate animal - you shouldn't be attempting to breed in the first place. What's your next trick? Inventing fire? People like you are going to spin civilisation into reverse. You're a moron, and so is that haircut you're trying to impress. Any offspring you eventually blast out should be drowned in a pan before they can do any harm. Or open any more nightclubs.

Even if you somehow avoid reproducing, isn't it a lot of hard work for very little reward? Seven hours hopping about in a hellish, reverberating bunker in exchange for sharing 64 febrile, panting pelvic thrusts with someone who'll snore and dribble into your pillow till 11 o'clock in the morning, before waking up beside you with their hair in a mess, blinking like a dizzy cat and smelling vaguely like a ham baguette? Really, why bother? Why not just stay at home punching yourself in the face? Invite a few friends round and make a night of it. It'll be more fun than a club.
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Just play Halo with your friends, see if you get into it. I'm not into gaming too much myself but if the alternative is going to a club I'd be on the Xbox 24/7 too.
 
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