When i get a new message my wife also gets the message with imessage.

[nameste]

I tried Settings - Messages,send&Receive, select your phone number only.
Removed the Apple ID for imessages. But i still get them

 

[maccingandsnacking]

This could go badly wrong

Isn't she just signed into her phone with your Apple ID?

 

[nameste]

This could go badly wrong

Isn't she just signed into her phone with your Apple ID?

nope

 

[Applejuiced]

That's bad for business bro.
Make sure continuity is turned off, calls on other devices is turned off and make sure you dont use the same icloud account.
settings/messages/send & Receive.
Make sure just your number on your phone and her number on her phone is selected.

 

[Apple_Robert]

Have you or your wife swapped SIM cards (meaning you put your SIM in her phone to use for a while etc)? Do you share the same iTunes account? If the answer is "yes" to one or both of the questions, that is the source of your problem. Check her phone under Messages > Send and Receive, and see if your email and or phone number is showing under the "can be reached by iMessage at" section.

 

[Gav2k]

You should have separate iCloud accounts for iMessage and then if you wish to have a joint account for iTunes that's possible

 

[applelover4u]

Hope the mistress dont message you

 

[Applejuiced]

Hope the mistress dont message you

I hear you, that can start all kinds of drama bro.
Gotta keep those side chicks on the DL