But that's really frustrating for someone if they have
no idea if their post was even deleted.
And what is to stop them from making the same comments over and over again? They wouldn't know, and it just keeps contributing to the same thing you're trying to avoid. It's counter-productive to the whole situation.
I'm obviously fighting a losing battle here as even those that agree seem to just give way with little resistance on the entire subject. Either way, it's not like it's impossible to just have a "This message was deleted placeholder" unless you're using a very archaic, outdated message board setup here or just refuse to do it. And as a user, that's frustrating.
If you're the one deleting the messages you might not understand that.
I'm not "bragging" about having posts deleted. I could not care less about that. I just want some inkling left there that a post was made so I know it was deleted. I don't see why that's such a big deal. Especially when you give notification a post was edited...