Why are some people so stupid?

[nanvinnie]

he's jealous...

 

[thejadedmonkey]

Maybe he still likes you and is jealous you have interests other than him.

Maybe that explains why things were always so rocky between me and my ex dancing girlfriend...

To the OP: Where are your cyber-pants, anyway?

 

[63dot]

I'm going to venture to guess (as a female myself) that you like this guy a lot more than you either think or admit. (one or the other)

The fact is women want men to be mildly into what they're into. If you are lucky to find a guy who is into what you're into then you count your blessings. For example, if I stumble upon someone who is equally geeky with me about technology and who will not only put up with but join in my camera fun on vacations and just in general terms around town then I've hit the jackpot as far as mutual interests go. However, you have to know that there will be some things that you're into that he simply will never understand.

I am a hugely sensitive person about certain things and things expressed through IMs are not off limits. His response doesn't come off as callus, only that he simply doesn't understand. Did you attempt to help him understand and if so, why are you? You said the two of you just drifted so unless you care for him more than you think / admit then I'd have to say you're just wasting your time. So what? He doesn't care about your dancing. If he is a friend he would care that you care, but maybe he hasn't hit that maturity level just yet. Perhaps he has and this is him.

I have but one sage piece of advice to offer you about men. "You can't teach a bull to dance, but if you do try, you'll wind up with a lot of broken dishes."

Don't give up on him just yet, friends are far too precious to just give up on over a misunderstanding and under the direction of a pack of strangers on the interwebz. Help him understand and in his own time ... if you two really are friends, he'll make whatever effort he can afford necessary to try and support you.

To the OP, listen to this post, I think it's great advice. Don't rely on a stupid IM, bring him to the dance studio/concert/workshop.

I was a musician for years and years and thought that it had little connection with fine art/painting. Then my wife took me to a painting seminar, and it far surpassed anything I ever experienced in my many years of live music, practicing, researching, and recording. It opened my eyes. He may love dancing if given the chance.

 

[anjinha]

To the OP, listen to this post, I think it's great advice. Don't rely on a stupid IM, bring him to the dance studio/concert/workshop.

I was a musician for years and years and thought that it had little connection with fine art/painting. Then my wife took me to a painting seminar, and it far surpassed anything I ever experienced in my many years of live music, practicing, researching, and recording. It opened my eyes. He may love dancing if given the chance.

The issue here isn't that he doesn't understand what I like. He likes dancing too, although just as a hobby. The issue is that he is being a jerk and basically said that I couldn't dance (even though he never saw me) just to hurt me or something.

I have friends who really don't like dancing and especially don't like my kind of dancing but are really supportive and would even go see my shows if I ask them too. This guy likes dancing but said that I couldn't dance and shouldn't even make en effort.

And it's not like I still like him or something. We dated briefly in the summer and that didn't work out. We talked in IM sometimes and that's it. It just bothers me that someone would say something like this for absolutely no reason.

 

[cheyennewilson]

bored

 

[anjinha]

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I just wanted to give you guys an update. Although I deleted this guy from IM I didn't block him, so he could still see me when I was online.

So today he came to talk to me just to tell me again that I cant dance and that when I go out to dance people just look at me because I look ridiculous dancing. I'm really glad I was never serious about this guy...

 

[sushi]

Many already gave some good advice.

So today he came to talk to me just to tell me again that I cant dance and that when I go out to dance people just look at me because I look ridiculous dancing. I'm really glad I was never serious about this guy...

After reading this, it looks like it may be time to move on.

I also get the feeling that you liked this guy more than you are willing to admit to yourself.

 

[anjinha]

Many already gave some good advice.


After reading this, it looks like it may be time to move on.

I also get the feeling that you liked this guy more than you are willing to admit to yourself.

I really didn't like him that much, but it bothered me that someone would be such a jerk for no reason. Now I just don't care... Not worth it.

 

[sushi]

I really didn't like him that much, but it bothered me that someone would be such a jerk for no reason.

Unfortunately, the world is full of people like this.

Anyhow, too many nice guys out there to bother with this one.

 

[Mord]

Unfortunately half the population are below average (more accurately median) intelligence, this may be a shock to you but it's true.

 

[teflon]

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I just wanted to give you guys an update. Although I deleted this guy from IM I didn't block him, so he could still see me when I was online.

So today he came to talk to me just to tell me again that I cant dance and that when I go out to dance people just look at me because I look ridiculous dancing. I'm really glad I was never serious about this guy...

Now that's just absolutely ridiculous. Just ignore him, he's probably trying to push you as far as he can to elicit a response. Why don't/didn't you block him?

 

[JNB]

Well, everybody looks ridiculous dancing (OK, maybe just me). Sounds like he's particularly sensitive about his lack of skill or talent, and consequently has to puff his own ego by trashing yours. Blow him off, he's just an immature, jealous pinhead. Block him, move on, and let him wallow in his own pitiful stew of small-mindedness.