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  1. TSE macrumors 68030

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    am I always the one everyone tells their problems to?

    am I decently attractive looking (and so I've been told), and have good personality, but no girl wants to date me?

    am I cursed?

    am I the "nice guy"?

    can't I find a girl that I am comfortable losing my V Card to?

    am I always the "nice guy"?

    sometimes I just want to give up on all my design work and everything I have lived my life for and just coast through life?

    I am intoxicated and am expecting answers in the morning...... **** this
     
  2. ucfgrad93 macrumors P6

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    Why not? Someone has to be that guy. Thanks for taking one for the team!;)
     
  3. CorvusCamenarum macrumors 65816

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  4. Intell macrumors P6

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    I don't think drunk posting is a really good idea.
     
  5. mrsir2009 macrumors 604

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    Being the nice guy isn't all bad. Girls like you, but just not as a potential boyfriend... It's much better than girs not liking you at all :)
     
  6. andalusia macrumors 68030

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    Speaking from experience? ;)
     
  7. abijnk macrumors 68040

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    Lady here, let me offer a little perspective... A self-proclaiming "nice guy" is typically one of two things:

    1) whiny
    2) liar

    So...
     
  8. niuniu macrumors 68020

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    Posting under the Influence :D


    Psst..Dry spells in dating are normal. I know some very eligible women, as in successful, pretty and well endowed (ahem) that have been single for ages, and any dates they get are really fail.
     
  9. dmr727 macrumors G3

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  10. (marc) macrumors 6502a

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    Relax, you'll sober up again.

    Because you let them.

    Yes.

    No.

    So?

    Seems like TSE is whiny.
     
  11. chrono1081, Mar 9, 2012
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    chrono1081 macrumors 604

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    This.

    Its funny because girls always say "Guys are such *******s!" (girl TV shows portray the same thing), but in real life girls want the *******, they don't want the nice guy. Many girls WILL admit that, but some dont.

    I know a girl who claimed "I don't like *******s I like nice guys!" yet she passed over a good looking, successful, nice guy for a dude thats been to prison, treats her like crap, and tells her other girls are prettier than she is and she stays with him.

    Its sad to say but girls really do like *******s, and that one friend I posted about is FAR from the only example I've seen in real life.
     
  12. mobilehaathi macrumors G3

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    Do we really have to make grand generalizations about what kind of people "chicks dig?"

    Life is a bit more complicated than this sorry cliche.
     
  13. whooleytoo macrumors 603

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    (This entire post is "IMO"!) I don't think the "girls like bastards" (or 'nice guys finish last') thing is entirely accurate.

    Rather, girls (generally) like a guy who's good at something; and confident, comfortable in themselves along with it. It could be someone who's rich, or good looking, or a sports player. Or it could be a guy who's intelligent, or well dressed, or funny, or eloquent, or creative, or is outspoken, or good with kids.

    When a guy is excessively 'nice', people often interpret it as neediness, and a lack of confidence. Whereas a guy who is stand-off-ish, or not always available is seen as more of a 'catch'.

    Guys are little different - many of us would prefer a girl who's a little coy than one who's begging us for a date.
     
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  15. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    Nope.
    Yeah it is.

    I agree with the above poster. Girls like guys with confidence. Most girls likely want a guy who can take care of them even if they don't need to be taken care of. Just knowing it's possible makes it nice. As for you TSE, don't let them tell you all of their woes. Bottom line is you'll eventually find someone and think she is the one. She'll likely not feel exactly the same and you'll be heartbroken. It will be one of many that you experience in life but in the end, you'll wind up with someone great and look back wondering why the others mattered to you as much as you think they did.
     
  16. Shrink, Mar 9, 2012
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    THIS ^^^^^:D

    Thank you for posting this...I'm just so tired of the fallacy of over inclusive generalizations, but I was too lazy to post.

    BTW: We haven't gone past calling women "chicks"??

    (I just noticed...I did post anyway...:p :rolleyes:)
     
  17. KnightWRX macrumors Pentium

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    I think your problem stems from getting girl advice on forums. This is after all like the 50th thread you've started about your dating stuff if I'm not mistaking posters.
     
  18. chordate68 macrumors regular

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    Girls do like it when you're sort of a jerk to them. It's a very fine line.

    Don't whine to them about other girls or problems in your life unless you want to stay in the friendzone. You have to exude confidence.

    "Power is the great aphrodisiac" -Henry Kissinger
     
  19. Mord macrumors G4

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    Hey, I'm a genuinely nice guy who's not a liar!


    In a whiny sort of way...:eek:
     
  21. interrobang macrumors 6502

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    Or if you do, don't do it to Black Hat Guy's crazy sorta girlfriend.
     
  22. dukebound85 macrumors P6

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    You know what? Every guy who can't get a date thinks they are a nice guy.

    How about you try some different tactics? Change up the places you frequent, change up your activities, and change up your social circles to include more people.

    Also, try to start making small talk with any and everyone. If you meet a cute girl while out and about, talk to her and see if she'd like to do something sometime.

    I'd wager you don't or have never done any of the above. I mean, you know what the definition of insane is....so act on it
     
  23. Mord macrumors G4

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    That's some genuinely good advice there, nice one duke :)
     
  24. acidfast7 macrumors 65816

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    life became much more interesting once I stopped being "nice."
     

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