Lately, I've been having a little trouble with this. The way I've been trying to combat stress is when I find myself in the middle of a stressful situation I immediately try to break it down and figure out if my emotional reaction to it is proportional to whatever is going on. So far, the answer has always been no and then I try to put it in perspective, calm down, and unclench my teeth. The problem is, I haven't really mastered the ability to put certain work events in perspective and calm down--and still care about my job. Sometimes I feel like if I'm not stressed then I don't care. Does being stressed at your job mean you care about it? If you aren't stressed at your job does that mean you aren't engaged?