My MBP 17" i7 2.3 was build in May and supports 6G in the Optibay. Got the Nimitz Optibay frame and have it working with a 3G 2.5" 5400rpm HD now.
I tested my Crucial M4 6G SSD and it is linked at 6G, but the link is very unstable. On bootcamped Windows the Intel AHCI driver more or less instantly falls back to 3G when the drive is taxed and the MSAHCI driver stalls several time until it falls back to PIO (which still performs good with SSD).
If the link instabilities are based on the Nimitz (=frame + adapters + internal cable) or on the Macbook circuitry/cable I cannot say.
Just to confirm, you're having difficulties with the M4 in the optical bay slot right? What about in the standard HD slot?