The reality is that many times this can come back to haunt you.
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4'000 $ Best buy gift card, what to do !?
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Holy crap. I knew I hated children for some reason. Couldn't put my finger on it until now.
Nothing like taking daddy's car and spending mommy's money without permission. Promiscuous. Idiotic. Naive.
Then we wonder why morality of the new age has gone down the *******.
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OP: If you have to go behind your wife's back like that, and then lie to her just to get a computer you want and don't need, you have serious marriage issues that will never be addressed. Perhaps it's just as well - you seem to not value honest commitment anyway.
Threads like this borderline offensive... In a shallow minded sort of malaise.
Sir, I'm sorry to inform you that you are mistaken. I do know my wife, and when the moments have come, she trusted me on this kind of decisions, she even encouraged me to get the most advanced mac we could get every time we bought one.
What can $140 jeans do that $20 jeans can't
If inequal spending is the issue, why don't you guys catalog your non-essential expenditures for a month and show who is where? Fair is fair.
Actually, my wife wouldn't bat an eye at a $4k computer purchase - She never has in the past, and I don't need to lie to her either - And I have to say it is YOU that don't know much about women since you make such generalizations about them...Get out and date more dude, because it's obvious you've been fishing in a very small pond....
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The thing is, I buy them at my local Randall's, they don't sell Apple gift cards. And neither do any of the supermarket I shop in.
Why do I HAVE to buy them at a supermarket ?
Well, I pay regular price, but I can disguise the purchase as a grocery purchase. Which my wife won't give me trouble about.
Don't judge, but that is the reason
That's a good one. Wife's can be so pesky about NECESSARY tech toys.
I have purchased gold coins before from the US Mint with my credit card and then sell them for what I paid or a little more. Why?
Its like a cash advance without the high apr-treated as a purchase.
I'm psyched on this thread. I read alot of this at work today and it was cracking me up.
If I was you, I would prolly just take a mac pro from best buy and do whatever post upgrades you can do on your own.
I commend you for your patience and creativity though!
If I was you, I would prolly just take a mac pro from best buy and do whatever post upgrades you can do on your own.
I commend you for your patience and creativity though!
If you seriously do that I really hope they catch you and knock you on your dishonest, thieving, rude punk ass.
Kids.
I'm a female and I would approve of spending $4,000 on a computer if money wasn't an issue.
Hmmm, interesting approach and probably more conducive to keeping a happy marriage than my approach, which is -- I will buy what I wish when I wish to. I may notify her when I am about to make a purchase but under no circumstances and I am asking permission to buy anything. Certainly doesn't make her happy if she disagrees and I doubt my indifference to her opinion is all that comforting.
I don't ask her what she spends her money on, nor do I care when she wants to buy $5000 worth of new furniture, when the old stuff is fine with me.
Folks may not agree with your approach but if it keeps the peace and makes life easier, I don't see the harm. I'm sure she is more aware of the actual cost of things than you imagine but doesn't want an argument any more than you do.
If I were you I'd buy what's available at Best Buy and investigate ordering add-ons at Bestbuy online, since they carry items not available in the store.
Cheers,
Why even notify her? Let her stay in the kitchen where she belongs and concentrate a little more on the housecleaning and child care and less on what YOU spend money on. Get her a birka.
Interesting that you say "her money". Are you married to the woman or just cohabiting? "Mine" and "hers" changed to "ours" when I got hitched.
This is so funny. Not a bad idea really.
My wife and I do this thing where if I had bought a $4000 item I would come home with it and tell her I spent $8,000. After the initial shock wore off I would tell I actually spent $6,000. Then she feels relieved. When I tell her I spent ONLY $4,000 she feels like I got a great deal! We both know we're lying but it's fun to pull on each other anyway. (It did work the first few times I pulled it on her though )
My wife and I do this thing where if I had bought a $4000 item I would come home with it and tell her I spent $8,000. After the initial shock wore off I would tell I actually spent $6,000. Then she feels relieved. When I tell her I spent ONLY $4,000 she feels like I got a great deal! We both know we're lying but it's fun to pull on each other anyway. (It did work the first few times I pulled it on her though
)Well, she does get even more annoyed if it just appears and I can't stand her annoyance as much as the concept of anyone having a say as to how I spend my money so occasionally notification is in order.
As to "ours", as far as I concerned this only applies to large expenditures like real estate or major renovations. She has her savings, I have mine, we make comparable income and spend what we want.
I just prefer to do so without unnecessary conversation.
As I told the OP, I believe his wife would prefer his approach to mine.
Cheers,
This should work.
You: Look woman, I bought a $4000 computer which I'll never need or use.
Her: WTF, why would you make such a big purchase without telling me?
You: Cause I'm a man. And I saved up a bit of money everytime we went grocery shopping.
Her: There is no way I'm letting you keep a $4000 computer
You: It's my money. F$%^ you!
Her:
You: Now, my new $4000 Mac Pro is getting dusty. Get to work.
She'll be loving it in no time
You: Look woman, I bought a $4000 computer which I'll never need or use.
Her: WTF, why would you make such a big purchase without telling me?
You: Cause I'm a man. And I saved up a bit of money everytime we went grocery shopping.
Her: There is no way I'm letting you keep a $4000 computer
You: It's my money. F$%^ you!
Her:
You: Now, my new $4000 Mac Pro is getting dusty. Get to work.
She'll be loving it in no time
Yeah but we never did find out what he ultimately decided to do. I think the entire thread went astray but it was fun to watch.
Cheers,
LOL.... this thread has me cracking up.
Sorry, but I'm just a young'n right now (20, unmarried, w/ a GF), so I can't really offer a lot of advice.
But as a hardworking, full-time student, who has carried a full-time job since he was 15; I can tell you I'd be pretty damn upset if I had to go behind someones back to make a purchase with money I've earned.
Don't get me wrong, if I were the breadwinner of a household, and there were more pressing things that need to be taken care of (bills, rent, new tires, healthcare, house repair, etc) I would certainly make sure my priorities were aligned. Nevertheless, if I'm getting by, and I want to buy a $3500 computer, I would tell my wife/GF my plans and explain (That way she's prepared), and then I would make the purchase.
Meh, just my two cents. But, if you think this way works for you, who am I to judge. You should know your marriage better than anyone on a forum.
Sorry, but I'm just a young'n right now (20, unmarried, w/ a GF), so I can't really offer a lot of advice.
But as a hardworking, full-time student, who has carried a full-time job since he was 15; I can tell you I'd be pretty damn upset if I had to go behind someones back to make a purchase with money I've earned.
Don't get me wrong, if I were the breadwinner of a household, and there were more pressing things that need to be taken care of (bills, rent, new tires, healthcare, house repair, etc) I would certainly make sure my priorities were aligned. Nevertheless, if I'm getting by, and I want to buy a $3500 computer, I would tell my wife/GF my plans and explain (That way she's prepared), and then I would make the purchase.
Meh, just my two cents. But, if you think this way works for you, who am I to judge. You should know your marriage better than anyone on a forum.
This thread is made of win. OP I can totally understand and I don't understand why people are giving you such a hard time. It may not be strictly honest, but it's a small amount each week, it seemingly hasn't been missed, and with some people, it's just easier not to have the conversation.
With my wife, I'm just waiting for WWDC to buy a MBP, it's a fair chunk of cash, but I'm using my mum's student discount, a wad of apple store gift cards I've been asking people to get me for birthday/christmas, some cash from ebaying stuff, it's masking the real cost a bit and making it seem less, but my wife is getting my old MB, the free iPod touch and we're getting a free printer, it's not going to mean we can't eat or our kids go without or anything, she's happy, I'm happy.
Back to the original question, OP, you want a mac pro because you're a hobby photographer and your MBP isn't cutting it, I'd say that the base Mac Pro will more than meet your requirements after you chuck a bit of ram in it, no need to get BTO.
With my wife, I'm just waiting for WWDC to buy a MBP, it's a fair chunk of cash, but I'm using my mum's student discount, a wad of apple store gift cards I've been asking people to get me for birthday/christmas, some cash from ebaying stuff, it's masking the real cost a bit and making it seem less, but my wife is getting my old MB, the free iPod touch and we're getting a free printer, it's not going to mean we can't eat or our kids go without or anything, she's happy, I'm happy.
Back to the original question, OP, you want a mac pro because you're a hobby photographer and your MBP isn't cutting it, I'd say that the base Mac Pro will more than meet your requirements after you chuck a bit of ram in it, no need to get BTO.