I agree with OP 8GB on retina is not enough.
I have base 2.3 with 8 GB, retina seems to eat up more memory per process as compared to my 2.6 Ghz (late 2012) Mac Mini.
I found a work around, that involved changing the resolution to a non HiDPI resolution, so the software doesn't have to upscale and downscale, in order to get those extra pixels pushed to the display and have a nice crispy screen.
I used the app mentioned in this thread
https://forums.macrumors.com/threads/1544314/
I now am running resolution=1680x1050 non HiDPI. The system can easily handle that resolution.
My WindowServer process never gets above 200 MB and is averaging around 150 MB right now. Safari is eating up less memory as are other programs.
The downside to doing this is the screen is not as crisp as a HiDPI resolution but the benefits are almost no lags, and more free memory due to processes using less.
I can now change my resolution in terms of non HiDPI up to 3840x2400, but that is not necessary. 1680x1050 is great. The screen even at this low resolution is still better than a cMBP at the equivalent resolution.
Until Apple figures out or pushes hardware/software that can handle retina on a 15 inch without major drawbacks, this is what I will do. There is no need for me to sell my unit and purchase a new one just to upgrade memory, when that still will not solve the lags, and the rate of memory consumption per process.