First, recognize that 2 types of people are giving you advice: 1, people who say 8 gigs is all you need, mostly based on their *current* usage. 2, people who say 16 gigs will "future proof" your MBP.
A retina MBP is *not upgradable*. This is important to you, even if you don't plan on upgrading the MBP yourself, because it will significantly affect its resale value in 3-4 years time. A big reason why the used market for MBPs is so robust is because people can buy them and upgrade them. However, if you have a machine that simply doesn't have enough RAM, nobody will want it.
Personally, I think the 16 GB RAM is a no brainer. This will only cost 7% of the machine, it will give you enough RAM for the next 3-4 years, and it will *substantially* increase its resale value when you want to buy a new machine.
There are also tangible benefits to having 16 gigs that have been described by other people. For example, you can run Parallels/Boot Camp more easily, it can handle more audio/video editing, you can run new games/apps in 3-4 years time.