Advice for a loser in London

[Tomorrow]

It's possible of course, but lets be honest if his story is true. How big you gonna feel?

If his story is true, he needs to quit signing up for memberships to online forums and go out and live his life.

 

[citizenzen]

Seek professional help.

Not just counseling for your mental state, but advisory and referral services for your current financial, housing, living conditions, etc. In the US, these are generally called "social services", but I don't know if it's the same in Britain.

Agreed. A 19 year-old with a terminal condition has to have options available in the U.K.

OP, are you under medical care?

 

[udinesio]

Agreed. A 19 year-old with a terminal condition has to have options available in the U.K.

OP, are you under medical care?

Yes, I'm. The NHS is really helpful.

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OP joined the forum yesterday and has posted only in this thread with a sob story.

Is my BS detector the only one feeling tickled right about now?

This is not my main account. I'm too embarrassed to ask that using my real name.

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Seek professional help.

Not just counseling for your mental state, but advisory and referral services for your current financial, housing, living conditions, etc. In the US, these are generally called "social services", but I don't know if it's the same in Britain.

If I were to make a list of suggested avenues for coping with your mental state, I would not put "Ask for personal relationship advice on a technology-oriented forum" anywhere near the top of my list. This would be for roughly similar reasons I wouldn't suggest seeking technical assistance on a personal-relationship website, which to put it briefly, is called "domain expertise". A related colloquial term is "barking up the wrong tree".

However, since I'm primarily a technical guy, I could be wrong.

I will try those services. I'm asking here because I don't know where else to ask. And let's face: today's nerds are not anti-social like in the 70s and 80s.

 

[Tomorrow]

This is not my main account. I'm too embarrassed to ask that using my real name.

Fair enough. The advice you've gotten in this thread still applies:

First of all, nobody likes being around someone who's so negative; quit referring to yourself as a "loser," quit feeling sorry for yourself, and be someone who others will want to be around. That might be easier said than done, but it's reality.

Second, for the love of all things holy, get off the internet and go live your life. If your proverbial clock is ticking, it doesn't make sense to waste the little bit of time you have left hanging out here.

Third, have fun. Do things you might never have done before. Go out with a bang.

 

[Ish]

My advice would be not to worry about dating for its own sake at the moment. If it's human interaction you'd like, find a group of volunteers in a field you like who want to make a positive contribution and join that. You'll find that they're happy with another pair of hands and any initial awkwardness will be covered by work in a shared goal. This will gradually give you a positive outlook.

This second may sound strange but it's a fact that exercise can help you when you're feeling a bit down. Take up fast walking or running or whatever takes your fancy.