Had:
Black 3GS
Black 4
Black 4S
White 5
Black/Space Gray 5S - Did not enjoy the front black for the 12 days I owned it - despite being discrete I just enjoyed the White front way more - Since no gold, went with Silver and couldn't be happier.
As other's have said, color shouldn't be based on gender.
I suggest you play around with someone's iPhone 5/5S of both colors if possible (doesn't have to be at the same time) and see which one suits you better.
Black 3GS
Black 4
Black 4S
White 5
Black/Space Gray 5S - Did not enjoy the front black for the 12 days I owned it - despite being discrete I just enjoyed the White front way more - Since no gold, went with Silver and couldn't be happier.
As other's have said, color shouldn't be based on gender.
I suggest you play around with someone's iPhone 5/5S of both colors if possible (doesn't have to be at the same time) and see which one suits you better.