she's not hitting on you, she is just looking for more attention... she want's you to want her, so that she feels better about herself.
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Am I being hit on through facebook?
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Winner. If you're attracted to her why not hit on her? You don't need a "I like you too" confirmation from every person you meet before asking them out/flirting with them. At least when you do you'll know for sure one way or the other.
fair enough... i say hit on whoever you want... there is always a chance, and what do you have to lose.
For hitting on a girl you've never met via Facebook?
Dignity comes to mind.
Why is it such a taboo for most people? It's not such a bad place to meet people. You can meet with people that share your interests, instead of going out on random dates with people who turn out not to be compatible. If only people were more open to it...
P.S. I like the word 'people', does it show?
I don't find meeting people online "taboo," more that the points of this particular situation have been circumstantial at best from the start and, as most others have pointed out, she's comes across as an immature, insecure social whore.
"I don't know really, the truth is that I don't know you, well, you don't seem familiar, I guess it was one of those times when you're checking facebook very late and you don't know what you're doing anymore" + lots of "lols" creeps me out. But my "dignity" comment was an exaggeration, and if it makes you happy, go for it.
Just be sure to share the psycho details with us after date #1.
I don't find meeting people online "taboo," more that the points of this particular situation have been circumstantial at best from the start and, as most others have pointed out, she's comes across as an immature, insecure social whore.
"I don't know really, the truth is that I don't know you, well, you don't seem familiar, I guess it was one of those times when you're checking facebook very late and you don't know what you're doing anymore" + lots of "lols" creeps me out. But my "dignity" comment was an exaggeration, and if it makes you happy, go for it.
Just be sure to share the psycho details with us after date #1.
Yeah, well, she does seem 'Psychoey'
. I'm just saying that, in theory, it could be a good place to meet people. Perhaps she's not a good example of this.
Shopping for relationships online is not a great idea. I always say play around but really know that nothing will ever come of it. If it does, and it can actually be real then of course go for it. But if you judge someone's character by the number of "lol's" they use in a sentence or the fact that someone who wasn't "cute" hit on you and therefore they're now a stalker, then frankly you need to stick to the online world because the real world isn't going to work out for you.
As far as losing your dignity if you hit on someone online, that's a bit far fetched. I've hit on someone online and my dignity is very much in check. For me hitting on someone is equated to flirting. Either way I do not and would never expect anything I say or do to go anywhere. That's just me. However, now that I read this thread and I find that if you're not cute and you hit on someone then you're a stalker...well apparently I'm a stalker! Fantastic!
As far as losing your dignity if you hit on someone online, that's a bit far fetched. I've hit on someone online and my dignity is very much in check. For me hitting on someone is equated to flirting. Either way I do not and would never expect anything I say or do to go anywhere. That's just me. However, now that I read this thread and I find that if you're not cute and you hit on someone then you're a stalker...well apparently I'm a stalker! Fantastic!
Shopping for relationships online is not a great idea. I always say play around but really know that nothing will ever come of it. If it does, and it can actually be real then of course go for it. But if you judge someone's character by the number of "lol's" they use in a sentence or the fact that someone who wasn't "cute" hit on you and therefore they're now a stalker, then frankly you need to stick to the online world because the real world isn't going to work out for you.
As far as losing your dignity if you hit on someone online, that's a bit far fetched. I've hit on someone online and my dignity is very much in check. For me hitting on someone is equated to flirting. Either way I do not and would never expect anything I say or do to go anywhere. That's just me. However, now that I read this thread and I find that if you're not cute and you hit on someone then you're a stalker...well apparently I'm a stalker! Fantastic!
I think a part of that was directed at me, so just to clarify... I'm really not that much of a @$$hole.
Already said I was joking with the "dignity" comment. Facebook, in a 'pure' sense, is not wholly different than eHarmony or Match (assuming both folks involved are looking to date), and not only do I not find those taboo or even questionable, but have patronized them in the past (as in being a customer, not making fun of). But someone who keeps up with lol lol lol all day is more likely the one whose online life is winning over their real world one.
I thought I'd already positioned myself as someone joking about the subject when I hit on you earlier in the thread. I'm just here to have fun.Alas, sometimes I forget I'm not funny.
Shopping for relationships online is not a great idea. I always say play around but really know that nothing will ever come of it. If it does, and it can actually be real then of course go for it. But if you judge someone's character by the number of "lol's" they use in a sentence or the fact that someone who wasn't "cute" hit on you and therefore they're now a stalker, then frankly you need to stick to the online world because the real world isn't going to work out for you.
As far as losing your dignity if you hit on someone online, that's a bit far fetched. I've hit on someone online and my dignity is very much in check. For me hitting on someone is equated to flirting. Either way I do not and would never expect anything I say or do to go anywhere. That's just me. However, now that I read this thread and I find that if you're not cute and you hit on someone then you're a stalker...well apparently I'm a stalker! Fantastic!
Ok, sorry about that, it was an inappropriate joke. The girl was a stalker, not because she didn't seem cute to me, but because she keeps insisting (even now) after many attempts in which I've shown no interest. Besides, cuteness is subjective, perhaps she's actually quite pretty and I'm just a superficial jerk
. Anyway, I'm not actually judging her character by her responses and I'm not taking this seriously (most of my comments were meant as jokes). It's just that I'm not one to miss opportunities anymore, I've already missed plenty. My philosophy is to give new people the benefit of the doubt, if they turn out to be psychos, then move on to the next. I've been in very difficult situations that have taught me to be careful with people, but that doesn't mean that I shouldn't give people a chance for fear of being hurt (I can take care of myself).
I hope I made some sense
I missed the joke and I missed you hitting on me. I am in fact a "stalker" so you know I would have been all over that like flies on poop! I completely agree, there are signs to look for in people who have allowed their online life to win over their real world life. I can also say that I've been with someone like that and it wasn't pretty, for either of us.I think a part of that was directed at me, so just to clarify... I'm really not that much of a @$$hole.
Already said I was joking with the "dignity" comment. Facebook, in a 'pure' sense, is not wholly different than eHarmony or Match (assuming both folks involved are looking to date), and not only do I not find those taboo or even questionable, but have patronized them in the past (as in being a customer, not making fun of). But someone who keeps up with lol lol lol all day is more likely the one whose online life is winning over their real world one.
Alas, sometimes I forget I'm not funny.
Ok, sorry about that, it was an inappropriate joke. The girl was a stalker, not because she didn't seem cute to me, but because she keeps insisting (even now) after many attempts in which I've shown no interest. Besides, cuteness is subjective, perhaps she's actually quite pretty and I'm just a superficial jerk
Anyway, I'm not actually judging her character by her responses and I'm not taking this seriously (most of my comments were meant as jokes). It's just that I'm not one to miss opportunities anymore, I've already missed plenty. My philosophy is to give new people the benefit of the doubt, if they turn out to be psychos, then move on to the next. I've been in very difficult situations that have taught me to be careful with people, but that doesn't mean that I shouldn't give people a chance for fear of being hurt (I can take care of myself).
I hope I made some sense
You did. I was just saying that the general theme of the thread went from "am I being hit on" to "she's an ugly stalker with zero social skills." You get what you give in life, it seems as though you already know this. As far as considering her a missed opportunity, I think it's been established that she doesn't qualify. Maybe on that note we're all superficial jerks!
A chance for what?
Sorry... I'll just twist your quote a bit.
It's me, I'm really not that funny.
I kinda agree, but I kinda disagree also. When I was saying he should just go for it, it was more in the context of the "real world" but I suppose the online thing would add another dimension to it.
I guess it depends on how you're meeting them in the real world. If you're meeting someone at school, work, friend of a friend, etc. where you have better opportunities to get to know them before actually exchanging contact info, obviously thats better than meeting someone online. But if you just meet someone at a club, party, on the street, etc. it's really no different from meeting them on facebook or myspace.
In a way it might actually be better online because at least you can get a better idea of who they are just by looking at their page and passing messages back and forth, before you decide you wanna ask for the number. Unlike in real life, where you really don't know someone when you ask for their number (of course there's always exceptions). Sure they can lie about who they are online, but so can anyone else in the real world. Now getting to really know someone online as opposed to real life, that's a different story.
EDIT: the one negative about meeting someone online is that they'll have your myspace/facebook page and like someone said, myspace/facebook + relationship = bad. But even if you meet them in real life they'd probably eventually ask for it anyway so what're you gonna do?
that is all very true... another thing i have noticed from the few times i met someone off of the internet... they never look like how they are supposed to look... people are soooooo much more hot on the internet, so if you are going to meet people from myspace or facebook... be prepared for the worst, and then it can only get better from there.
Quick marry her. Impregnate her with your love child. Make sure you dedicate a song to her and all of her friends too!
It is facebook. Go with that.
Everyone loves Jessica on facebook and yet, alone...here I sit.
Well not alone. I have my thoughts and my high-priced computers and such.
lol you should be a writer if you're not. great sense of humour.