Nope. Your momma is quite popular 'round these parts too.
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Anyone else feel awkward around Christmas (or any) family get togethers?
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Literally laughed out loud
Extremely bad taste - but funny!!
I feel for you chrono, i absolutely despise my non-imediate family. I've come to the conclusion that i'm much happier when i'm not near them, so i avoid family gatherings.
I feel extremely awkward around my own family as well. I have no problem going out to the bar or just about any kind of social place, but I absolutely hate visiting with family. My mom knows how a feel about this, but does not understand. She actually makes things worse by asking me questions, or ridiculing me for my feelings. She has resorted to begging and guilt tripping me to come to family gatherings...
The worst thing, so far, is the engagement to her BF. I think there will be a final showdown over not attending the wedding. Its not that I don't like her, her BF, his family, or even my own family. The thing is I just don't care, and I'd rather just cut all ties with family (just waiting on Mom to die so there's nobody left to guilt trip me).
Or, maybe he would rather not converse with them simply because he doesn't care to share his life with them (not to assume I know his reasons for feeling this way, this is my own personal feeling).
I definitely understand what you're saying, but for some of us it just isn't a reality we can live in. I don't care to know my family or what they're doing, and what you're suggesting is what I call "The Show".
I hate putting on The Show for family, letting them believe I have any interest in them and what they have to say, answering questions when I'd rather be home alone, and watching the drama unfold in a room of 20 people where I'm only related by blood to 5 of them seems like a waste of time. The depression and fatigue after interacting with them is incredible. The effort required to even show up is enormous.
The worst thing, so far, is the engagement to her BF. I think there will be a final showdown over not attending the wedding. Its not that I don't like her, her BF, his family, or even my own family. The thing is I just don't care, and I'd rather just cut all ties with family (just waiting on Mom to die so there's nobody left to guilt trip me).
Or, maybe he would rather not converse with them simply because he doesn't care to share his life with them (not to assume I know his reasons for feeling this way, this is my own personal feeling).
I definitely understand what you're saying, but for some of us it just isn't a reality we can live in. I don't care to know my family or what they're doing, and what you're suggesting is what I call "The Show".
I hate putting on The Show for family, letting them believe I have any interest in them and what they have to say, answering questions when I'd rather be home alone, and watching the drama unfold in a room of 20 people where I'm only related by blood to 5 of them seems like a waste of time. The depression and fatigue after interacting with them is incredible. The effort required to even show up is enormous.
I get along just fine with my very big family. Most gatherings are at my lake house or beach house anyway. I had about 60 people at the one before Christmas. It's always nice to catch up with everyone, as long as I don't have to deal with any of the food prep. Catering helps but it doesn't always happen.
I like my family just fine, when I can't see or hear them.
Yeah, there's no "ignore" button for face-to-face contact. That would make life much easier!
Not with my immediate family, but it is genuinely entertaining when my mum mixes her meds and then drinks some wine.
My grandma always tells me I should have married my girlfriend years ago and had some kids by now. And my grandfather tells me I shouldn't have gone college or university and worked at Tesco after graduating school... even though I've got a much better job. But that's it really, we all get on great and I love this time of the year for all the little parties.
But that said we see each other all the time, and everyone descends on my grans house abroad over the Summer.
and I love this time of the year for all the little parties.But that said we see each other all the time, and everyone descends on my grans house abroad over the Summer.
I do not like my entire family!!!!!!
I really DO NOT LIKE EVERY SINGLE blood relitive I have. I do NOT speak with ANYone. They are all mean, nasty, arrogant, horrible, disgusting, evil, pushy, bad, greedy, jerks, a$$hole, morons that I just simply have no use for. I wish my Mom AND Dad were put up for adoption because whatever family they were placed in, even if they were placed in a foster home which they had to leave at age 18 they would have been better off in life then they were for growing up in the family they were raised in. My Mom AND Dad were the BEST members of the families they grew up in. Mom's family AND Dad's family should NOT even be breathing as they are breathing air theat good people ONLY should breathe! My parents both passed away and I have no brothers or sisters. I am an adult only child and NEVER EVER want to see or hear about my blood relatives!!!
I really DO NOT LIKE EVERY SINGLE blood relitive I have. I do NOT speak with ANYone. They are all mean, nasty, arrogant, horrible, disgusting, evil, pushy, bad, greedy, jerks, a$$hole, morons that I just simply have no use for. I wish my Mom AND Dad were put up for adoption because whatever family they were placed in, even if they were placed in a foster home which they had to leave at age 18 they would have been better off in life then they were for growing up in the family they were raised in. My Mom AND Dad were the BEST members of the families they grew up in. Mom's family AND Dad's family should NOT even be breathing as they are breathing air theat good people ONLY should breathe! My parents both passed away and I have no brothers or sisters. I am an adult only child and NEVER EVER want to see or hear about my blood relatives!!!
I AM PROUD to be the ONLY CHILD of my parents. MY parents were THE BEST of the families they grew up in. Mom's family AND Dad's family are just HORSESH*T!!!
Very True
I celebrate nothing, but due to circumstances beyond my control, had to make a very unplanned trip to Cornwall after an unexpected death.
The neighbours insisted on me spending the day with them, despite my polite protestations to the contrary " You can't be on your on today" err......Why not? I am Jewish, but a confirmed Atheist so I muddled through it all with people I don't even know.
Next year I'm building a bunker and locking myself away
With the exception of my sister (who doesn't celebrate anything, like me), I have managed (not unintentionally) to alienate myself from most of my relatives, with whom I have nothing in common.
So I don't have the problem of family gatherings!
Rather enjoy time with friends. You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.
I celebrate nothing, but due to circumstances beyond my control, had to make a very unplanned trip to Cornwall after an unexpected death.
The neighbours insisted on me spending the day with them, despite my polite protestations to the contrary " You can't be on your on today" err......Why not? I am Jewish, but a confirmed Atheist so I muddled through it all with people I don't even know.
Next year I'm building a bunker and locking myself away