I've got a rather strange and unjust situation in my house right now, and i'd like some input from everybody, and hopefully advice as well.
I'm 17, my younger brother is 14, and we live in a house with our parents. My older brother is in college.
I'm really into movies, and so is my dad, so we like to watch movies on my computer usually 3 or 4 times a week. My mom likes the family to be together in the evenings after dinner, and not have me and my dad split off by ourselves to watch a movie. Often it's a movie that my mom and brother don't want to watch, so it's not like they could join us.
So lately, my mom has been enforcing that we spend time together as a family in the evening, and she forbids my dad and me from watching movies together. She says that my dad is her husband, and he committed to be a family man when they got married.. bla bla bla, something along those lines. She says I can go be by myself if I don't want to be with the family. Is something not right here?
So now I end up by myself on my computer, typing away on MacRumors, while my family is out in the living room begging me to come play some game with them. Actually, today my dad came home early so that him and me could watch a movie before dinner, which was okay with my mom. But it's going to be a consistent problem, even though there was a solution today.
Basically, my mom demands that the family all be in the same room after dinner, and she doesn't realize that she's asking other people to do something they don't want to do, for her enjoyment. She enforces it in the name of "togetherness" but I wanted to be together with my dad watching movies. Why is that different?
When my dad and me "get our way," my mom and my brother are free to do whatever they want, while we watch our movie. When my mom gets her way, Nobody can do what they want. She's asking us to sit around doing nothing, or find something to do, ANYTHING but watch a movie. As long as the damn family is together. Her request enslaves other people. My dad and me don't have a request. We don't ask anything of anybody. We just want to watch a movie.
Is it normal for a mother to so strongly desire that she spends time together with her entire family in the evening, at the cost of her own son and husbands desires?
I just need some input on this, or advice. If somebody tells me that it's normal and that I should respect my mom, that would actually make me feel better. But if it's true that she's being totally unreasonable, i'll want that feeling to be confirmed.
Thanks...
edit: Oh, I should mention that my 14 year old brother is 14 going on 9. So when you think of the situation, imagine a 17 year old and a 9 year old. That'll be more accurate.
I'm 17, my younger brother is 14, and we live in a house with our parents. My older brother is in college.
I'm really into movies, and so is my dad, so we like to watch movies on my computer usually 3 or 4 times a week. My mom likes the family to be together in the evenings after dinner, and not have me and my dad split off by ourselves to watch a movie. Often it's a movie that my mom and brother don't want to watch, so it's not like they could join us.
So lately, my mom has been enforcing that we spend time together as a family in the evening, and she forbids my dad and me from watching movies together. She says that my dad is her husband, and he committed to be a family man when they got married.. bla bla bla, something along those lines. She says I can go be by myself if I don't want to be with the family. Is something not right here?
So now I end up by myself on my computer, typing away on MacRumors, while my family is out in the living room begging me to come play some game with them. Actually, today my dad came home early so that him and me could watch a movie before dinner, which was okay with my mom. But it's going to be a consistent problem, even though there was a solution today.
Basically, my mom demands that the family all be in the same room after dinner, and she doesn't realize that she's asking other people to do something they don't want to do, for her enjoyment. She enforces it in the name of "togetherness" but I wanted to be together with my dad watching movies. Why is that different?
When my dad and me "get our way," my mom and my brother are free to do whatever they want, while we watch our movie. When my mom gets her way, Nobody can do what they want. She's asking us to sit around doing nothing, or find something to do, ANYTHING but watch a movie. As long as the damn family is together. Her request enslaves other people. My dad and me don't have a request. We don't ask anything of anybody. We just want to watch a movie.
Is it normal for a mother to so strongly desire that she spends time together with her entire family in the evening, at the cost of her own son and husbands desires?
I just need some input on this, or advice. If somebody tells me that it's normal and that I should respect my mom, that would actually make me feel better. But if it's true that she's being totally unreasonable, i'll want that feeling to be confirmed.
Thanks...
edit: Oh, I should mention that my 14 year old brother is 14 going on 9. So when you think of the situation, imagine a 17 year old and a 9 year old. That'll be more accurate.