real-world use difference? Have you used the Nexus 7 for any length of time? I am not sure if it is the processor or the software. But it just isn't as smooth as the iPad.
Yes, and plugging in the cable/dock to charge is SO much more effort than placing the Nexus 7 on it's charger? If you are talking about real-world usage differences, charging is pretty flimsy.
I use a nexus 7 for hours per day, so, yes, I've used one for a length of time. I don't see the issues you do. And it's not like I don't also have a ton of Apple products; I'm quite familiar with how they work. There are pluses and minuses to both, and
in my opinion the mini doesn't justify the price premium,
especially at the 32GB/LTE level, where it is almost literally twice the price.
Why is wireless easier? I just set it down. Especially for nightstand use, it's fantastic - even better than the dock I had for the previous generation Nexus 7. Again, lightning trumps micro USB, but wireless trumps wired.
I find it amusing - for fanboys of both sides - that "their" product feature is what matters, but only when it serves them. Example: the Nexus 4 (or, really, most Android phones) have a bigger,
wider, higher-resolution screen than the iPhone - but it doesn't matter. However, the iPad mini is, it seems, better than the Nexus 7 because the screen is wider. Now, if the argument there is that you surf the web on the iPad but not the phone, then, well... there's not much reason to argue about the processor speeds on the iPhone 5 if you tend mainly to use it for "phone apps".
Lightning is better because it's easier to use - but wireless charging, which is even
easier to use, isn't? It makes no sense.
In the end, it comes down almost purely to having a preference and using it to justify a purchase. I see absolutely nothing wrong with buying an iPad mini if you want one. Nor do I see anything wrong with buying an Android tablet.
Both ecosystems are vast. Almost all devices are more than fast enough now. Cloud services make almost any capacity sold sufficient. Even the worst screens are better than anything from a few years ago, and all flagship screens are fantastic. The fact that someone can't play app X or tweak setting Y is only relevant if they want to play app X or tweak setting Y.
Too many people are taking biases that were valid a year or two or three ago and thinking they still apply. They don't. And people on both sides are typically speaking without direct knowledge of the competition, and if they do have direct recent experience, they almost always state a preference as opposed to some blanket statement that product X is universally better than product Y.