The dB scale is logarithmic. So when someone says the AirPods produces sound at 110 and the volume needed is 165 you are suggesting the difference in energy to break eardrums is not a linear 55 but 5 orders of magnitude difference. Thats just...not even conceivable biologically.In short, the guys quoting 165dB are simpletons who think there is only one number.
If you told them it takes 4,000N to break a bone, they would buy that number and apply to it a newborn, child, or grandmother.
"How could the baby be hurt by a drop? It takes 4,000N to break bones!"
To use your example its suggesting that it takes 5000 newtons is silly because its a range of 4000-6000 but with db your suggesting its a range of 0-5000000 newtons. Its...not remotely consistent with biology.