I'm that "other guy" and again, you are probably right about not many wanting to pay $40+ for al-a-carte ESPN if they can get it cable "as is" with ESPN for about the same price. My point was- and continues to be- that that's exactly what they want the masses to think... that the "as is" model is the better value vs. this "al-a-carte" model.
The only stakeholder in that chain that wants al-a-carte is us consumers, and then it's only a segment of us that think that somehow we can go from paying $100/month (or $40/month in your case) to $5 or $10 per month and still keep everything we like to watch coming to us, and still motivate the system to keep cranking out new shows that we'll want to watch in the future, and that somehow the broadband provider who is also our cable provider will just roll over and let Apple take those cable revenues without raising broadband rates to make up the difference, etc. And some of that segment wants it commercial-free too, ignoring the $50/month subsidy equivalent that commercials (mostly running on channels "I" never watch) chip into the existing system.
The Studios and distributors like the system "as is." Apple would like to inject itself into the system and scrape 30% off the top, which requires the other 2 to take a big hit or for costs passed through to us customers to go
UP. And still, some of us imagine we're going to get everything for nearly nothing because Apple rolls out a new

TV or television. Were we the same people who believed an Apple iPhone was going to deliver unlimited everything cell service for $5 or $10 per month?
I get why we love the dream. But for it to come true, the other players in that chain have to see why they should love the dream. How do the Studios, broadband pipe tollmasters and Apple all make more money if we consumers end up paying a lot less? Show them the money in al-a-carte and they might get interested.