I'm not trying to start a war. I work in a small software development shop that builds multiple software products that cost $10k+. I know dozens of languages and tend to pick them up very quickly. I probably learned the vast majority of C# and Java each in less than a month. Cocoa and Objective-C just aren't nearly as easy to work with as these new generation languages. I work with self-admitted Apple fanboi's who say the same thing. The Interface Builder is very good under the circumstances (especially compared to other mobile platforms), but the whole process in general requires too much handholding in general including memory management, the terrible wrapper around SQLLite, etc.
Agreed that a war isn't necessary here
I think my advantage comes from the fact that Objective C/C was the first language I ever worked with. I have gained experience with a number of other languages since then, but still find myself most at home with Objective C. Regarding memory management, garbage collection in ObjC 2 is an improvement and I suspect will become part of the iPhone OS when hardware upgrades remove some of the resource constraints. I think there is some benefit in knowing the basics of memory management in ObjC. There is some ambiguity about which initialization methods return objects that are autoreleased, but in general the concepts just take some practice and organization.
You bring up a very interesting point in concluding. Does anyone know why most authors ignore NSCoder with iPhone programming? I agree that the SQLite wrappers are seriously lacking and am surprised that they are often taught as the only way to implement any filesystem for the iPhone. I implemented NSCoder for my application and have not had any problems with lost data from users (to my knowledge). In additional, they save an incredible amount of development time IMHO.
In any case, I would highly recommend the Tech Talks to anyone starting. I attended the Leopard Tech Talks and was very happy with the seminars. You can't expect much more than a primer on each topic, but I walked away from most sessions learning at least a few things. For networking alone, it's a great event.