No, I just work rationally with what you're dishing out. I can't help it if you use words incorrectly. There's a difference between "forced" and "on by default." Sounds like you were using the word "forced" to over-dramatize it and make it sound worse than what it was. You made it sound like some sort of scandal, which is why I was asking for a link to a news story about it or something. I guess it wasn't.
It's not often that I set up a new iPhone, so I honestly don't remember what's on/off by default in iCloud, but I always go through the different iCloud-compatible apps (Settings > Apple ID > iCloud) and set everything how I want it when I DO set up a new iPhone. I noticed
Apple's instructions to set up and use iCloud Photos instruct you to go in and turn it on, which seems like an odd thing to say if they're already on by default.
And based on your last paragraph, it sill appears you don't understand that the new parental controls for Messages are not the same thing as on-device CSAM detection for iCloud photos. Two different topics. Nothing is being reported to Apple from Messages. It's only between the parent(s) and the child. And as for "what's next" beyond CSAM detection, you're committing the slippery slope fallacy, as are so many on this forum. Just because something theoretically could be abused, doesn't mean it's a bad thing or shouldn't be allowed. This applies to MANY things in life, not just technology.
You're already trusting Apple isn't doing anything nefarious with software functionality already on your phone (e.g. facial recognition), so why all of a sudden the distrust? If you're that paranoid, then why continue to use iPhones?