Are you a recluse ?

[glocke12]

Agoraphobia, that's me. It's not really a character issue or flaw per se. I don't consider you not well adjusted based on your post. Large groups are often frigtening, boring, or both to most agoraphobics. And spending time alone is far more comfortable. And since humans are still social creatures, an agoraphobic can often bond with a pet better than most people. .

I looked up agoraphobic, and Im not really sure that describes me. I dont get panic attacks per se (unless I am giving a presentation at work or something). I just get bored, or lose interest quickly around most people. Im good for hanging out for an hour, maybe two tops. Plus, I dont enjoy, and am not very good at making small talk, so that comppunds the problem.

Im also a musician, and when playing music with others Im fine, but often times people want to hang for hours, again something I find boring..Id rather be off doing my own thing...

Do you find it almost painful to go to unfamiliar places? Would you rather make what money you make working from home instead of having to deal with people? Because that's me in a nutshell.

Not really..I do like exploring unfamilar places. If I were to work from home, Id never get anything done

 

[Prof.]

You should get some better underwear then.

LMFAOOOOOO

I knew someone would have taken that sexually.

 

[kabunaru]

I am some-what anti-social and rebel against society. I am not a bad person, I am just being me.

 

[leekohler]

LMFAOOOOOO

I knew someone would have taken that sexually.

And of course it had to be me.

 

[dmw2692004]

I can't stand being alone though I'm definitely not extroverted, I can't stand group conversation as I end up just sitting watching people talk unable to enter the conversation. If I have someone to myself I'll chatter away happily but as soon as a third person enters the picture I'll just lock up.

I can't stand television, I find it an assault in my peace of mind, I prefer to cut myself off from popular culture as I find it's poisonous to my mind.

This is exactly how i am. The problem is that it started causing conflicts with me and my (ex)girlfriend. Apparently the "cool" thing to do is fail miserably in school, not get into collage, get 7 tattoos and drink as much as you can and whenever possible. Unfortunately im not cool. Oh well, ill be happy when I get to move out of high school and into collage and the real world where I can make something of myself.

On a lighter note, I will go out once and a while, but I enjoy time to myself and such.

 

[Prof.]

And of course it had to be me.

And who better than you?

 

[northy124]

If by recluse you mean hate people then yes I do, I hate everyone.

 

[sushi]

Same here! I don't think anyone in my family really knows me. I just try to go along and get through family events as quietly as possible. I go home about once a year. Grin and put up with it, and get back to the city ASAP.

One nice thing about short vacations home -- especially when you must travel from overseas!

 

[iBlue]

I wouldn't say recluse, per se, but I am definitely a loner at heart. Oddly enough I married someone who is very similar and we thoroughly enjoy just being alone together, as it were.

My relationships with people have always been a bit complicated, primarily with women who seem to enjoy stabbing me in the back. Perhaps as a direct result I hesitate to form friendships because I find it difficult to trust people.
I'm not too bothered about it, I don't need a lot of friends. I really treasure the few good ones I have and would go to the ends of the earth for them.

 

[Gray-Wolf]

Considering I have lived alone for right at 25 years, I guess that could make me a recluse. I do prefer the quiet to the noise, and being alone to crowds. Always have, and probably, always will.

 

[63dot]

I looked up agoraphobic, and Im not really sure that describes me. I dont get panic attacks per se (unless I am giving a presentation at work or something). I just get bored, or lose interest quickly around most people. Im good for hanging out for an hour, maybe two tops. Plus, I dont enjoy, and am not very good at making small talk, so that comppunds the problem.

Im also a musician, and when playing music with others Im fine, but often times people want to hang for hours, again something I find boring..Id rather be off doing my own thing...



Not really..I do like exploring unfamilar places. If I were to work from home, Id never get anything done

Some of what you say qualifies, almost in a textbook manner, but some aspects don't. Agoraphobics, and/or panic attack sufferers are definitely not a monolithic group of people. But large crowds to speak in front of, or small talk at cocktail parties are not on the top of most agoraphobics' list

 

[0098386]

I do prefer the quiet to the noise, and being alone to crowds. Always have, and probably, always will.

Oh yus, I hate constant noise. I consider myself lucky to live in semi-rural Englandshire. I go for walks up on the moors where it is completely, and slight insanity-inducing, silent.

I might have the chance to work in NYC soon which is going to be a huge culture shock for me. The boy from the sleepy village visits the city that never sleeps, or something.

 

[Melrose]

^^ I can't stand 'white noise' ... I don't know how people can sleep with it going. I like my sweet silence, generally more than not. I'm very sensitive to audio disruption.

I'm not a recluse, or agoraphobic by any means, but I tend to gravitate to smaller gatherings usually, although it depends on the mood.. there's times when I like that feeling of being surrounded by people and yet be all alone (ya know what I mean?) Kind of like in those movies where the guy walks down the crowded street and then the camera pans backs and he swamped with humanity but is still completely deserted.

And of course it had to be me.

You take everything waaay too personally, Lee.

 

[cheyennewilson]

*shrugs*

 

[Erikarecluse]

How do I live in this world as a recluse?

I am living in a commune in Costa Rica, where I thought that I could live comfortably alone without too many judgements and labels from the people around. This has worked out very well for nearly three years, however my source of income is coming to an end and I now have to rethink my next move, and am seriously considering being a renounciate and living in a convent in England. I am not even sure that this is possible nowa days..does any other recluse have any ideas of how to live as a recluse? I would like to know if it would be possible to work on line to earn enough money to support a humble life style, thereby assuring a stay at home situation anywhere in the world where there is internet. I would appreciate any useful input.

Thanks,

 

[leekohler]

Oh yus, I hate constant noise. I consider myself lucky to live in semi-rural Englandshire. I go for walks up on the moors where it is completely, and slight insanity-inducing, silent.

I might have the chance to work in NYC soon which is going to be a huge culture shock for me. The boy from the sleepy village visits the city that never sleeps, or something.

Do it jimmi! It would be so good for you! You will have a blast in NYC.

 

[bobr1952]

Just wondering if anyone else is as reclusive/anti-social or just as not well adjusted socially as me.

I really dont enjoy being around other people, except for short periods of time, or small groups of people. Parties, picinics, etc...bore the hell out of me. Id rather spend time alone reading or listening to music instead of doing any of that. I could go on, but Im sure you get the point. Just curious as to how many others like me out there. I think at times I also relate better to dogs than people...

That is really an interesting observation about yourself--and it really seems spot-on for me as well. Especially the part about being bored at large gatherings--large being about 4 people--lol I am the same way and usually can't wait to get home. I can be pretty social as long as I don't have to stay that way for a long period of time--then the boredom starts to set in.