yea sometimes I wonder if mini would've been better route for me than the regular 12 pro but in the end the added battery life, telephoto, Pro construction (could be seen as pro or con, I see as a plus, since the regular reminds me more of like XR I had and every other iPhone notwithstanding X - some kind of variation from the norm), brighter screen (ymmv, panel lottery, but in theory higher brightness and in practice if you win the lottery) and 6gb of ram make it worth it to me and I justify it as 'the smallest feature rich iPhone'. If there's ever a mini pro, I will have to give it serious consideration.
Plus I still have my SE2020,
So I guess the Pro Max is certainly not for me. Especially the flat edges and bigger size than 11 Pro Max. Would feel unwieldy. I probably could've managed with the 6.5" XS Max / 11 Pro max if I had got one then. Still, the 6.1" is one hand able in certain situations
tl;dr I think I picked the right model for me