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There are many things that ought not be tolerated - untruth, oppression, abuse, etc.
All the times you should not have to tolerate things.
You shouldn't tolerate pain, poor behavior, violent partners, dishonesty, discrimination, etc, etc.
I'd rather advise to stand up for what you truthfully be right and good.
I was thinking more of being tolerant of people who think differently than you do.
That's my point, "tolerance" isn't inherently a general good or good piece of advice, really.
And you'll have to forgive me if I doubt how well people who preach "tolerance" in the way you define it apply it themselves. I mean, nothing says "tolerance" like "#RESIST".
♡Never show your beautiful girlfriend to your best friends. Best friends will take a bullet for you but wil nevet bear to see you with a beautiful woman
[doublepost=1558426142][/doublepost]Many years ago in my early 20's i lost my soul friend when one of the most beautiful gal in our community fell in Love with me. Jealousy, enviously, short and badly fussed temper killed our friendship.
Of course we can't generalise but watch out
[doublepost=1558426142][/doublepost]Many years ago in my early 20's i lost my soul friend when one of the most beautiful gal in our community fell in Love with me. Jealousy, enviously, short and badly fussed temper killed our friendship.
Of course we can't generalise but watch out
That's my point, "tolerance" isn't inherently a general good or good piece of advice, really.
And you'll have to forgive me if I doubt how well people who preach "tolerance" in the way you define it apply it themselves. I mean, nothing says "tolerance" like "#RESIST".
You do understand the difference, don't you? I can be tolerant while resisting the intolerance shown towards me.
♡Never show your beautiful girlfriend to your best friends. Best friends will take a bullet for you but wil nevet bear to see you with a beautiful woman
[doublepost=1558426142][/doublepost]Many years ago in my early 20's i lost my soul friend when one of the most beautiful gal in our community fell in Love with me. Jealousy, enviously, short and badly fussed temper killed our friendship.
Of course we can't generalise but watch out
A sign of insecurity, I would have thought, or a sign that you are pretty young.
A secure and confident person would have no issue with this, and "beautiful girlfriends" are neither possessions to be flaunted nor treasures to be locked away and hoarded, they tend to be human beings with their own lives, ambitions, and goals.
Anyway, such envy, and jealousy are his problems, not yours. If that is his character, I doubt that this would be confined to "beautiful women" but would probably extend to professional matters as well.
Its not a sign of insecurity. life is full of surprises. Being trustworthy with those who are very close to me taught me a hard lesson. Its got nothing to do with confidence and insecurity.
And why are you focussing on girlfriends and their life's/feelings???
We are talking about mistrust, back stabbings and jealousy of best friends. You seem always to divert from the subject. Anyhow lets end it here.
We are talking about mistrust, back stabbings and jealousy of best friends. You seem always to divert from the subject. Anyhow lets end it here.
Are you telling me that I built a full sized dungeon for naught?
Yes, I suppose that I am.
Actually, it is a sign of insecurity - especially on the part of former friends.
And I pointed out that this happens also in the professional world. In fact, jealousy is more prevalent in that environment than in the personal.
In truth, you will rarely remain friends with many of those with whom you were inseparable when you were young, even though that may seem unthinkable at the time.
It is not just jealousy and insecurity (on their part, or yours), it is also that you change, they change, your respective life priorities, interests, destinies, ambitions, and life journeys change, and you grow apart.
There will come a time where you won't see some of them for decades at a time. When you do see them, in some cases, conversation will dry up after five minutes - not out of jealousy - but just that you may not have much to say to one another any more, and neither of you are really all that interested, apart from a brief, benign exchange.
Then, there will be others where - irrespective of time or distance since you last met - you will be able to take up where you left off.
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The people with whom you will be able to resume ties - despite years, decades, continents apart - will be those for whom common circumstance (i.e students at the same time, or work colleagues) was not the main - or only - driver of the friendship.
Rather, character and personality - and possible common interests, or a sense of humour - define the friendship, and not circumstance, or, rather, shared experience and circumstance can reinforce the bonds of friendship, but the friendship wouldn't be able to continue if you didn't like the character of the person in question.
A lot of young friendships occur because you are in the same place (mentally, socially, professionally, spatially) at the same time; once those common circumstances no longer exist, the foundations of the friendship itself may be a lot less stable.
Rather, character and personality - and possible common interests, or a sense of humour - define the friendship, and not circumstance, or, rather, shared experience and circumstance can reinforce the bonds of friendship, but the friendship wouldn't be able to continue if you didn't like the character of the person in question.
A lot of young friendships occur because you are in the same place (mentally, socially, professionally, spatially) at the same time; once those common circumstances no longer exist, the foundations of the friendship itself may be a lot less stable.
It's a blanket opposition to a person/presidency, rather than a position or idea that he promotes. That's intolerance.
And you're not tolerating views that you find intolerable -- which is my point, but then you can see that "tolerance" is not always a good thing. Often, it is not.
That person( my best friend) was a far relative and we grew up together in the same street, we did everything what two best friends does for many years. So the foundation was there.
Because of that sudden and unexpected love triangle i was going to write a book called "Twisted Hearts"
Not being loved by that beautiful young woman it was extremely hard for my best friend to swallow. So things start to change very quickly.
Its true, jealousy and enviously can become lethal and harmful if one party felt rejected and undesired by the person whom he madly in love.
After all humans are animals so it was just nature taking its course when my best friend did what he did.
Here are two male Lions butchering each other for a female..
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If you are going to hate another person, hate them for who they are, not what they are.
We are not lions, but humans.
Lion patterns of social organisation are not how humans run or arrange their lives.
And secondly, if your former friend displayed such jealousy and envy towards you because a woman (or girl) he fancied preferred you, that does not reflect well on him, in terms of friendship or relationship material.
If he is that envious and jealous towards someone who was formerly a close friend, I would hate to see him in a relationship with a woman who wished to put an end to the relationship, where his issues of jealousy, and possibly possessiveness, would be even more pronounced.
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Raise your children; spoil your grandchildren.
Spoil your children; raise your grandchildren.
Spoil your children; raise your grandchildren.
No, I don't to be honest.
In fact, if anything, it strikes me as not being about "the power of love" but rather, as being about jealousy, possession, and desire, (both sexual desire and the desire to flaunt the fact that one has attracted someone deemed attractive by many), and the desire not to lose face (by being rejected, or by having been seen to have been rejected) or the perception that one has not been treated respectfully.
None of this is any basis, let alone a good basis, for constructing, sustaining or maintaining a long term relationship (or friendship, for that matter).