I like you all did the same exact thing. I didn't even get to #3 and I noticed that the snappy thing was not there. I tried to finagle it...then the white thing snapped. So then I had this bright idea of pushing it together the best I could and let the weight of the iphone make the connection... well...that worked kinda. everything about the phone worked except the part of listening to the other caller with the phone up to my ear -- bluetooth, headset, speakerphone all worked fine.
Then the other day, I accidentally updated my baseband on an 8gb 3gs someone got me, so there went my replacement for a month. Btw. I am a t-mobile guy here in the states.
HOWEVER, as I was reading this thread, I opted to try it again...then as I got further down the posts, I head soldering and pins and ...oh geese. I'm f'ed again. So, like Shrek, I do my best to slide the ribbon from the screen under (or in btwn) the pins on the m'board with the help of those eye brow plucker scissor type tweezers. I think I busted one or two of the pins on the m'board (but not sure if that was from before)....I gingerly snapped #2 and #1.
I then hoped at the very least I could use it as before as, from what I can gather, you all can't even use the phone in the ways that I can -- headset, bluetooth and speaker... GUESS WHAT! Old Shrek here got it down. Now I can talk on my phone as I place it to my ear. Not sure how long this connection is going to last, but...just thought I'd share. So, here is my advice..when you've gone past the point of now return and you are ready to toss it in the garbage...channel the spirit of Shrek and see what happens.
Also, I wouldn't throw your stuff away. You all may have f'ed up your mother boards but not the screen and stuff. Far more people have cracked screens than doomed m'boards. You got an asset on your hand. List "that screen" on Craigslist...my bet is you could get anywhere in btwn 100 to 200.