I just got out of a highly committed 3 year long relationship and I'm looking at my first single semester of college. The relationship ended because while we loved each other we both got into this habit of being unbearably stifling. For whatever reason we sucked at maintaining our relationship and having lives outside of each other. (22(me) and 20(her) is too young to hit that point in life . But on that note I'm trying to figure out what I'll be doing / looking for during the next few years. Un-surprisingly I'm not feeling inclined to immediately start looking for another highly committed relationship. At the same time I'm not really a one night stand type of guy. I did a little of that during my junior/senior years of high school and never really enjoyed the experience. So I guess what I'm looking for is a relationship but one with a lot more autonomy. I don't wan't to feel the need to constantly check in/ make plans/ co-ordinate vacation schedule's etc. I'm not suggesting a "just friends with benefits situation", but when a fun opportunity comes along I don't want to feel restricted by a relationship. I'm not really looking for advice but I wouldn't mind hearing about some of MR community's experiences in this area. What types of relationships "worked", what types didn't, how'd you feel about said relationships etc?