Ok, so this is a touchy subject/ethical dilemma I've been thinking about for some time now. My older brother Ben died over a year ago at the age of 26 due to sudden, unexpected, and obviously serious health problems. He was extremely brilliant, a great athlete, a good person, and had a bright future. He lived in NYC and shortly after his death everything got moved out of his apartment. For the past year I've had his Mac Pro set up at my place in Boston. I don't use frequently but I do get some use out of the Adobe CS suite he has installed as he had an interest in photography. He didn't have a password on the computer so I just set up a separate user account and haven't ventured into his account or any of his files. My question is I don't know what to do with his files... One part of me wants to explore everything. A part of me wants to feel like I know him better and I am curious of what things I might find that will make me appreciate him more. What aspects of his life didn't I know that I wish I did? At the same time I'm afraid of what I might find if I start looking- internet history, iMessages, email, etc that might ruin the way I remember him. I could set boundaries but even with 100% honest intentions I'm afraid I could run into something I don't want to see. Another part of me wants to delete everything to avoid the temptation. I know for me my computer is something I consider private and I don't think I'd want people rummaging through it after I'm gone. I have nothing "abnormal to hide" but I wouldn't want my parents to read a conversation between my girlfriend and me. At the same time, I fear I may later regret deleting his files and feel like I deleted part of him. I've asked my parents about the issue and they didn't seem to have an opinion. I don't think they necessarily understand how integrated a computer can be in a younger person's life. I've talked to a psychologist about the matter but she didn't really say anything other than reflect my thoughts back to me. I know I'm not done grieving Ben's death and I don't know how long it will take. As long as I don't open or delete the files I'm not really making any decisions either way. I feel as if my temptations to open or delete his files change daily but the more time goes by the more I want to do something. Does anyone have an experience with this? What is the ethical thing to do here?