Destination weddings - thoughts and opinions

[maflynn]

I guess she can be generous, but not considerate?

I think its more along the lines of being oblivious (in an innocent sort of way). I think she believes people would love to celebrate the wedding event and to a large part that's correct but there's a huge difference celebrating at a rental hall down the street, and celebrating by flying to an island and saying for a week. I'm not trying to be down on her, as my question was more opened ended to destination weddings in general.

 

[Huntn]

I think its more along the lines of being oblivious (in an innocent sort of way). I think she believes people would love to celebrate the wedding event and to a large part that's correct but there's a huge difference celebrating at a rental hall down the street, and celebrating by flying to an island and saying for a week. I'm not trying to be down on her, as my question was more opened ended to destination weddings in general.

I’m not down on her either, just expressing my reaction to people I have known who think such a proposition is perfectly reasonable. Now if the couple to be married is fine with a lot of friends and family not showing up, then no problem. They've made a choice and understand why you are not attending.

As far as wedding destinations, I’d be more inclined to marry locally and then talk about exotic honeymoon destinations, usually someplace warm, involving a beach, but could easily be a mountain lake resort.

 

[maflynn]

I’m not down on her either, just expressing my reaction to people I have known who think such a proposition is perfectly reasonable. Now if the couple to be married is fine with a lot of friends and family not showing up, then no problem.

Oh I know, but I wanted to put it all in the proper context. I know there are many bridezillas and what not, and I don't categorize her as that. I do find the idea of expecting people to spend thousands of dollars to attend a wedding unsettling.

 

[Silencio]

Some friends had a destination wedding in Honolulu almost 10 years ago. The bride had some family who live in Oahu, which certainly helped seal the decision, but that was an incredibly fun wedding and trip/vacation overall. Most of the attendees rolled in several days before the wedding to at least enjoy the Honolulu area. I'm not the biggest fan of Waikiki, but it was pretty fun to spend a few days there with about 50 friends.

After the wedding, we rented a house in the North Shore with a smaller group and got more of the quiet, chilled out Hawaii experience I personally prefer.

 

[sigomez]

So I was wondering what people thought of destination weddings.

I'm not looking to have one, as my wife would be angry, if she found out that I was getting married

Seriously though, what are your thoughts. Has anyone been got married that way, or attended?

They seem pricey for the guests. I know someone who's planning one and the cost will be 200 dollars per person per night, not including airfare. Its all inclusive, so there's that.

Running the numbers - For a 6 night getaway you're looking at a cost of $2,400, a 4 night will be a tad cheaper at $1,600. Throw in airfare and needing to bring cash on hand and its something that can exceed $4,000 (5,000?) for a couple.

I think overall it is more expensive for the guest but cheaper on the groom and bride. My sister in law had a destination wedding and honestly it was the best wedding I have ever been to. It was super nice and overall a great experience.