Did I do something wrong?

Sounds like you are well rid of him. Good luck with your new roommate.

 

Yes, people really are that douchy.

Don't sweat it.

 

Some roommates just plain suck. My first roommate was kind of a moron. He was incredibly gullible and had some rather annoying ideas. He was a pain in the ass.
My second roommate was awesome and is still one of my closest friends. The roommate after that was awesome too, but we were kinda good friends before moving in together. After that my next roommate was okay. We were friends before moving in together, but he had a nasty drug problem and it caused some tension. Since I moved out we've been able to patch things up.

OP, it's your freshman year. The one thing I learned my freshman year is how much some people such. Sorry about what a douche your roommate is, you'll have better luck with your next one… unless the problem really is you.

 

I had different roommates each of my four years of college. My senior year ones are the ones that I still hang out and talk with after graduating.

People are still finding themselves in college and not everyone is going to get along. My advice is to move on. Although, you may want to think about what those girls said and see if there is any truth in it. If you are messy, maybe take an extra effort to pick-up after yourself. As for the other things, you have to decide for yourself.

 

I share a apartment style dorm with 3 other people, one of my roommates is just like that , though from the beginning they would not even speak to me. Whenever I sit in the living room they get up and go to their room.

I heard him talking on the phone with his mom one night telling her I am always here, though the funny thing is he is too.

So yeah roommates suck, but I am fortunate enough to not have to share a room with anyone.

 

i don't mean to sound rude, but this bit here came off as rather weird. people tend to pickup on comments like these, and if they are your roommate, it can become a very uncomfortable living arrangement.

your roommate might just be a total jerk though. i dunno.

 

Don't let it bother you. Just let it go and hopefully you'll get a better roommate. let him play his games with people, and maybe one day he'll learn better.

 

Don't sweat it. Yeah, people are that douchy. Things get better when you get together with like-minded people. As I remember, TSE, you are a little precocious. You'll be better off with people like that than people who think you're "weird." Anyway, who wants to be normal? If I got rid of my weird, I'd be pretty damn dull!

 

I'm lucky enough to have never flatted with such dicks yet. I'm in 2nd year of uni and I flatted and worked for a year and a half before uni and I always got nice enough people. OP don't be afraid to call them out on their crap in front of others, then they look like jackasses. Hopefully you get a decent person to replace them.

 

Could be worse, I walked in on my creepy roommate whacking off on several occasions.....

 

No! You didn't do anything wrong. I think that's just a bad roomate who is just not used to living with someone. Don't feel like it's your fault for just being who you are. Luckily, right now I live with a roomate and we get along just fine. We don't hang out with each other but we do get in good conversations every once in a while. Whenever your roomate moves out (considering he should move out since he's a douche), you'll hopefully meet someone better than him.

 

Soooo disappointed this didn't go in a different direction.

 

Yeah, some people are really that douchey. Accept it early and life will be much easier for you. Don't take it personally, seems like your roommate was still in a high school mindset.

 

In all likelihood, there's probably at least a bit of both going on here.

The difference is that while you and most of the rest of us realize that not all people are perfect, your (former) roommate has yet to learn that particular life lesson.

People can be sorted into three camps - those who are able to look past their roommate's minor flaws, those who aren't able to look past their roommate's minor flaws but handle it gracefully, and douches like the (former) roommate who have to bring in people to make a big production of it.

The advice you're getting in this thread is quite sound - make no apologies for being yourself, be thankful that this guy is out of your life so early in your college career, and most importantly, don't sweat it.

 

Don't sweat it TSE, just move forward. My freshman year of college a roomate tried to out me by simply signing up a new roomate and telling admin that I was moving out of the room. I had to straighten out the mess as they were just going to randomly place me in a new room when I never turned in a move request. In the end he moved out and got a room with the new roomates he wanted and I got new roomates in the room I was already in.

College can be just as bad if not worse when it comes to social interaction, peer pressure, teasing, etc.. Your first roomate turned out to be a jerk and he's moving out, good. Focus on your studies and making new friends. Don't waste time or energy by over-analyzing things. Focus on being the best version of yourself and ignore negative influences and negative people.

 

roommates like that guy are why people decide they want to live without roommates

 

welcome to the world of crappy roommates.
My first roommate and I end up nearly going to fist before I moved out and got my own room.
My next roommate and I were great friends in college and later we rented a house together but each had our own bedroom. It helps a lot more when you get to choose your roommate and are friends with them before hand.

If you have the resources try to see if you can get your own room. Now I had the resources to pull that off and really only had share a room for one semester of college. Other wise I had my own room and space. It helps a lot when you have a place you can go and hide.

You just had a bad roommate who at the very least should of been smarter than to talk **** about you when you were in the room.
Do not worry about it and move on. Also some other advice that I can give you that will help you out a lot in college is GET INVOLVED. And by that find some club to join and make friends there. or do things in the dorm. I had a bible study group that I got involved with and I am still good friends with several of the people I met there.

There are a lot of organisations in college you could join.

 

There has to be more to this story unless the guy is a goody two shoes neat-freak, you are a slob, and by his standard you only date sluts while he only dates prime and proper lasses. Btw, how would he know? And do you consider yourself ugly? It helps if you have self esteem. (not implying you don't) Had any verbal disagreements with him? Maybe he is just an ass?

 

A similar thing happened to me. I'm also a college freshman and was glad to get a roommate that I liked. We got along really well for the first 10 days or so, and ten we just sort of stopped talking. He mentioned he had found someone else that he was considering moving in with, but he said to not count on it happening.

I came back from class one day and all of his stuff is gone, the room completely void of any evidence that he was ever there. I was sort of upset for the first day or so because I thought maybe he didn't like me which is why he didn't say goodbye, but if you don't get a new roommate (I haven't after a few weeks now) you should ENJOY it. I absolutely love not having a roommate, it's fantastic! Normally at my school you'd have to pay thousands of dollars to get a room to yourself.

 

Dumped by your roomate and your main squeeze...ouch.

Talking to your roomate before college is like online dating...reality is often different. As for yor girl, college is a time one finds out who he/she is. Flings, one night stands, and dumping/being dumped is part of the landscape.

Don't take the above too seriously. Find out who you are and grow. Worry less about what others think you are.

 

Or the guy (I was in an off-campus house one summer) in the room next door watching porn late at night, then dashing to the bathroom to take a bath late at night because in his words when I complained "hard to explain but I get dirty sometimes". Well my other house mates got a laugh. Was an interesting house.

OP don't worry about yourself, or your looks you will meet a lot of great people who you will stay friends with-trust me.

 

This. Absolutely focus on your needs. Sounds awesome that you joined those clubs and hopefully you can find some chill people to hang out with through those that share a common interest.

My roommates were crazy. One always did experiments with computers (heat experiments, don't ask) so we got a good few fire alarms set off and one small explosion. Another one of them used to pay girls online in foreign countries to strip for him. He would set up shop in the living room and attach his computer to the big screen. Yeah try walking into that with a group of friends. My other roommate beat my door down one time thinking I had weed stashed somewhere. I didn't smoke in college nor have any possession of it ever.

Just chalk it up to college and move on.

 

Oh, the worst was when he was sneaking a little wank while I was in the room asleep. Our rooms were about the size of jail cells, so 2 beds in the same room. Unbeknownst to him, I wasn't fully asleep, I was tossing and turning and opened my eyes for a second, and I saw him slapping it around to porn. Not that I have anything against doing that, but please for the love of all things holy, don't do it when I'm in the room!