Name: Abstract (ok, not really) Gender: Male Age: 26 Problem: I can get an erection (not as "stiff" as normal), but can't keep it and am totally "deflated" by the time I got to put the stretchy hat on. I know erectile dysfunction is supposed to be a normal occurrence in men, but at age 26?? Dang. Is that what I'm suffering from? I mean, I can get a semi-hard one, but I can't keep it. At all. What the heck am I supposed to say when we're both naked and I've already warmed up the oven to the point where she's basically telling me to put it in right now? Anyway, I've had a problem 2 of the past 3 nights with this girl who I love more than any girl I have ever met (except my mum). I broke up with my ex-girlfriend last year in October, and haven't had sex since then. Anyway, we've essentially had sex of some sort since last week on like Thursday or something. I just haven't......you know.......let Capt'n Abstract explore the dark caves yet. The first time things didn't work out, we got to 2nd base, and she said she didn't want to. I said "OK." We talked, made out again, got to the point where she's naked and I'm essentially pulling my pants down. She said she wasn't ready since she had just gotten over her ex-boyfriend. I said "Ok." I'm patient; plus, I really really love being with her. Then we start making out again AGAIN! and she's asking me to get the condom in her drawer. Sweet. Problem is that I was so flaccid that I couldn't do it. Think "frightened turtle". It would have been impossible. Was it cold in her room or something? Last night, we made out, got nekkid and let the dirty bedsheet action begin. Life was good. I had an errection when we made out, but after we got naked and did some.......(I don't want to describe it here in case I cross the line, but it involves kissing, general touching, and fingers).......I completely lost it again. It wasn't like a frightened turtle, but nobody's going to be scared of the sword I'm "wielding." Stupid thing was that when I was opening up the condom wrapper with my teeth, it fell out and I couldn't find the damned thing since it was so dark (I have Xmas lights in my room that provides very soft light.......*cues porn music*), but even after I found it, I just threw it somewhere dark because I was so flaccid that there was no way Captain Abstract was going to stand up and salute again. I tried to get it up, but it didn't happen. I told her I couldn't find the condom. Wow, she laughed at me and said "That's alright, I just wanted to be with you" and stayed in my room looking for it, and then we talked, then slept. Tonight, she said she's coming over. I made out with her this evening and still wasn't as "erect" as I know I can be, so that's not a good sign. I don't think I can go through with this. I don't want to bowl a turkey and go 3 nights in a row. Wish me luck. Hopefully......I'm Going In!™ However, in case I can't, anyone got tips for dealing with this issue? Should I like....change my diet or something?? I exercise, eat fairly healthy, and generally quite healthy, and this usually isn't a problem for me. I'm thinking about not "choking the chicken" for a few days and let the good Captain take a rest --- some time to think things over.