Did I lose my mojo?

[OutThere]

... or too much booze before the event can do this as well (I don't know this from personal experience or anything) ... if you were drinking more than 1 or 2, try iced-tea next time during the date.

Just not iced tea that hails from long island.

 

[Flowbee]

I don't think it's physical, and I really do think it must be psychological.

And getting an erection now even when she's not around is also difficult.

I don't know how that *doesn't* sound like it might be a physical problem.

 

[spicyapple]

As you know, our bodies change as we get older, so don't think of it as being negative although in reality, that is what it is!

For guys, after age 18, it's all downhill.

 

[d wade]

i know if im drunk or too stoned or tired or whatever the reason and have troubles... just pop the porn in, son. watching porn and fooling around with a chick.. you should have no problem.

or, get a hold of some viagra or levitra or something. just take half the pill and you will be rock solid for hours

 

[Abstract]

Viagra at age 26......"has it come to this?"

Oh, and popping in porn didn't really work so well either. It worked a bit, but not to the full extent that I'm capable of.

I don't know how that *doesn't* sound like it might be a physical problem.

But maybe a psychological problem is preventing me from having one at all. With anybody, for any person, and for any porn. It's definitely different right now.

I don't think it's physical because I'm generally quite healthy. I'm participating in a 14 km run on Sunday, and am just flat out healthy. If there's a disease I have, I'm not aware of it, so maybe you're right. I just don't want to go to the doctor or resort to Viagra just yet.

 

[satty]

Viagra at age 26......"has it come to this?"

Oh, and popping in porn didn't really work so well either. It worked a bit, but not to the full extent that I'm capable of.



But maybe a psychological problem is preventing me from having one at all. With anybody, for any person, and for any porn. It's definitely different right now.

I don't think it's physical because I'm generally quite healthy. I'm participating in a 14 km run on Sunday, and am just flat out healthy. If there's a disease I have, I'm not aware of it, so maybe you're right. I just don't want to go to the doctor or resort to Viagra just yet.

Do you cycle a lot?

 

[Lollypop]

I had, and have the exact same problem, all guns are balzing and when its time for the raincoat... nothing!

For me I think its in the head, I had a bad experience with someone I loved, at that time I didnt think it would impact me, but it has, for a very very very (way to very) long time I had problems.

Tried porn, worked partially, I dont really drink, also relatively healthy so I eventually went to the doctor, she gave me viagra and the problem was solved (a new everready problem was however introduced), but I wasnt happy with the solution. Im 25, I should have these problems right?

So here is what I have found over the past few months, try using a half a pill, relax, have a glass of wine (not 2!!), and make sure you are confortable with the person, and let your partner know that "Penatraeteev" might not happen, it will if the situation is right. Sex should be a comfortable and mutually sensual experience! If you find that there was no pressure to perform, there were no external factors influencing it, and half a pill doesnt work, then you might have a medical problem, if it does work, scale down the dosage till you are confident in your abilities again.

I know you dont want to go viagra at your age, but use it as a tool my friend. <brotherly hug>

 

[JRM PowerPod]

<brotherly hug>

If you get a boner after one of those, mate, your in real trouble

 

[mad jew]

It's all in the head, buddy. If Viagra gives you back some confidence, then so be it. Good luck and be sure to post back with details, pictures and maybe a video...

 

[Abstract]

I had, and have the exact same problem, all guns are balzing and when its time for the raincoat... nothing!

For me I think its in the head, I had a bad experience with someone I loved, at that time I didnt think it would impact me, but it has, for a very very very (way to very) long time I had problems.

Tried porn, worked partially, I dont really drink, also relatively healthy so I eventually went to the doctor, she gave me viagra and the problem was solved (a new everready problem was however introduced), but I wasnt happy with the solution. Im 25, I should have these problems right?

Haha, thanks man. I can't believe how normal this seems to be, or at least amongst mac nerds.

I do feel better, and will at least try drinking a beer or some port or something tonight. She didn't come over last night after all, so that was cool. She might come over to watch a movie later tonight, and that'll definitely lead somewhere. Put yer money on me.......I'm a shure thing in that department. Too bad my horse always starts off great, but loses the race at the end.

Anyway, I like the alcohol suggestion, the porn didn't help, but I might try eating mango (or at least drinking mango nectar) like Killuminati said. I won't go for Viagra right now, and quite frankly, I'd feel weird going to the chemist to get the pills. I will as a last resort, though. Maybe I could go all night. We'd do it like rabbits.

 

[tobio]

Sorry to hear about your mojo man, hope you find it again soon.

For random internet stranger advice, heres my 2cents...

try something different with the girlfriend, but something you are both comfortable with. talk about it, but not in a "we need to talk" way, in a flirty way. get a bottle of vino and talk about your fantasies and stuff, talk about all the things about her that turn you on. flirt with her as though its your first date again, then hopefully seize the moment.

another fun thing to try, if you are both into it, is go out shopping for some toys, or some sexy underwear. go together, have a laugh together and try to just be relaxed about everything. If you live in an area where they don't really have those sort of shops then get out the credit card and go shopping online (together). Avoid ann summers and hen-night-novelties and get some decent and quiet equipment.

Most important is the talking though. You have to be open with your woman otherwise things could start going down-hill. relax relax relax.

good luck!

 

[Music_Producer]

There's nothing wrong with you (hopefully) Your 'deflation' has to do with you not finding the girl particularly sexy enough to keep it going..

I guarantee if you were with a girl that's your 'kind' (sexually, physically) you will perform without any glitches (lol i make everything sound like an operating system)

It has nothing to do with love either. Yeah, we might be humans with all the social issues such as marraige, monogamy, etc.. but when it comes down to basic genes.. you need a sexy woman to get your mojo working. You can love your girlfriend/wife as much as possible.. but if she's not terribly attractive to you, your little mate won't work that well.

Women will respond with a "But you love me, that should be enough of a turn on" Yeah.. try telling that to yer wanker that has a mind of its own!!

And, of course, for us men.. testosterone levels drop from the age of 20 onwards.. I remember when I was 16-19, I would get an erection almost all god damn day long.. for no reason at all. It was bloody annoying, but it doesn't happen anymore.. and I know that when I'm 35 I'll wish I had that problem again! Some of my friends who I've prescribed testosterone to (i graduated from med school) .. they of course wanted 'juice' for their workouts.. just wanted to try a small dose to see what it does.. and man.. did it work for their mojo.. "I feel like I've hit puberty again" was the common statement I would hear.

 

[Music_Producer]

Btw, if you have Viagara or any other drug that causes vasodilatation (you can even have L-arginine as a supplement.. and it causes your blood vessels to dilate) that doesn't mean it will keep your erection constant.


It only 'helps' .. but try popping a viagara and make out with someone you are not at all attracted to.. it just won't work. Its all in your nerves, you have to be relaxed.. and attracted to the person in the first place ( I mean sexually attracted)

 

[Abstract]

There's nothing wrong with you (hopefully) Your 'deflation' has to do with you not finding the girl particularly sexy enough to keep it going..

I guarantee if you were with a girl that's your 'kind' (sexually, physically) you will perform without any glitches (lol i make everything sound like an operating system)

For someone who graduated from med school, you are probably the least likely to be right in this thread. The reason why is because even extremely hot girls I saw didn't give me an erection even if they normally would have. Simply put....I had a problem, and it didn't end with her.

The girl is very attractive. I'd say more people would be attracted to my ex-gf than the girl I'm with now (which doesn't mean this girl I'm with isn't beautiful, but my ex-gf is......how do I say this......"physically lucky", and it's not really a fair comparison for 99.99% of womankind), but I personally find my new gf more attractive (yes, even sexually) simply because she smiles more and we have more between us. My got less attracted to my ex-gf because we just didn't click as well. My new gf has a great sense of humour too, and laughing is a natural aphrodesiac.

And besides, I've solved the problem. I don't know if my problem was just a lull that would have gone away anyway, but 2 nights ago, I went grocery shopping and listened to Killuminati and thought I'd try out his mango idea. Ok ok, I got mango nectar instead , but later that night, I got "it" all back.

 

[killuminati]

Your welcome

Actually, you can thank George Costanza

 

[Fiveos22]

As can certain chemicals dumped into the body during the date ... of course overuse could also be a problem.

So true, I did not believe the "whiskey-dick" phenomenon until it happened to me! Apparently there are two levels at which you should be able to hold you're alcohol 1) to maintain social coherence and 2) to maintain sexual coherence. The second one, at least for me, is lower than the first one. Removing booze from the equation fixed that problem.

 

[whooleytoo]

And besides, I've solved the problem. I don't know if my problem was just a lull that would have gone away anyway, but 2 nights ago, I went grocery shopping and listened to Killuminati and thought I'd try out his mango
idea. Ok ok, I got mango nectar instead , but later that night, I got "it" all back.

Wow. So is it something in the juice, or is it the name that makes it work?

For me, nothing works better than just kissing her. (Maybe because it's such a nice 'distraction' you stop worrying about other things..)

 

[keysersoze]

It's likely just performance anxiety. Nothing to worry about. It will, in fact, let you know if she really likes you... if she sticks around...

Seriously, don't worry about it.

EDIT: Didn't see "it" was back. Good job. Go get em tiger.

 

[camus]

Sex and Anti-depressants

Could be psychological or something else.
Talk to a doctor and get blood work done. Sometimes certain heart conditions or lung problems cause err... problems

Before the medical investment, one question: can you masturbate? If you can do that successfully - even with external stimulants like porn, than it is probably performance anxiety of some sort. If you can't successfully masturbate (alone by yourself), I'd look for the medical issues as Leareth suggests.

Number one is, are you taking an anti-depressant? According to my psychiatrist about 70% of people taking SSRI anti-depressants experience ED or full blown SD (lack of libido). There is one anti-depressant, wellbutrin, which does not seem to cause sexual problems and may even enhance performance. As with everything that sounds good, it has its downsides: wellbutrin is chemically similar to the weight-loss drugs Tenuate and Diderex, which are in turn close to amphetamine; So expect possible insomnia, anxiety etc etc with wellbutrin. All my friends, who take it, say it "works as advertised, buy a lot of KY" Do they have KY in Canada, Leareth

 

[killuminati]

Abstract, you really need to make a post in large letters saying problem solved.

And please don't answer camus's question . we don't need to know