Do you think a couple can have a dating relationship purely through texting?

like the title says

  • Yes I do

    Votes: 5 10.6%
  • Not at all

    Votes: 42 89.4%

  • Total voters
    47

Misskitty

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And never meeting? If so, its like once every 4 or 5 months, otherwise you communite everyday through text and only text. Blah. I feel so limited. How can you get to know someone on a dating level when you never even let you hear their voice aside from a couple times in person?

Discuss.
 

4JNA

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Feb 8, 2006
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sounds like my relationship with AT&T. bastards won't talk to me, only text, and always want more money.

i'm all like 'call me sometime' and they are like 'only if you upgrade to the mobile share plan' and i don't even want to be mobile or share or anything. why can't they just accept me as i am? what about my needs?!?

i can't take it anymore, but i feel so ashamed looking at those 'other' sites for mobile plans. damn my need to connect.
 

The Doctor11

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Dec 15, 2013
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I think things will be really weird when you do meet. Have you ever texted someone a lot over a long period of time with never seeing them. I did that with a good friend of mine of summer vacation. 2 months of texting and then school starts again and your standing there going ummmmmm. You really will have no idea what to say.
 

0007776

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Jul 11, 2006
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I would be inclined to say no, but at the same time people sustained relationships long distance through letters before there was the internet, so maybe. Although a text seems more impersonal to me than a letter or email that actually has some thought go into it.
 

Scepticalscribe

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Jul 29, 2008
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'Relationship'? I would say, possibly, yes, but a 'dating relationship' purely through texting? This would stretch what is understood by 'dating' to the very farthest extent of the meaning of the word……..
 

GoCubsGo

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Feb 19, 2005
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He's just not that into you.

You don't have a boyfriend if this is all that it is, not even close so no worries about breaking up.
 

sviato

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Oct 27, 2010
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Is this that same guy that wouldn't hang out with you two months ago? I understand that you're in your mid-30s and may want to be with someone but I don't think these kinds of arrangements are the ones to settle for...
 

ipodlover77

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Jan 17, 2009
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'Relationship'? I would say, possibly, yes, but a 'dating relationship' purely through texting? This would stretch what is understood by 'dating' to the very farthest extent of the meaning of the word……..
SS, don't you usually use your fancy font when you post? ;)
 

sdilley14

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Feb 8, 2007
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No. You're not really dating someone in that type of scenario, you're dating the idea of that person. You're dating a series of words on a phone screen + the idea of who that person is in your head.

I think texting can be a good way to stay in touch on a regular basis, but if you're going to really date someone, you need to spend time in person, face to face, at least once every week or two I'd say - especially if you're just starting out. I suppose some of that "in person" time could be substituted with Skype/FaceTime, but there is no true replacement for spending time together, in person.

You already knew the answer to this question before you asked it.
 

Technarchy

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It's hard as hell.

Any person in the military, married or dating, will have to be talked off a ledge because of the stress associated with distance and lack of real physical interaction and communication.

Generally, the answer is no. My marriage survived, but it is not fun or easy ever.
 

Misskitty

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Jun 18, 2010
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Is this that same guy that wouldn't hang out with you two months ago? I understand that you're in your mid-30s and may want to be with someone but I don't think these kinds of arrangements are the ones to settle for...
Ya same one.
 

Shrink

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Feb 26, 2011
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It does nicely address the issue of unwanted pregnancy.

Or unwanted sex.

Or unwanted time together...where one learns the good and the not so good about the person.

It allows the participants to create any persona they want...

Strange definition of boyfriend/girlfriend, IMO. But I'm an old guy...you know, actually spend time in physical proximity to one another.:p

In short...a close friendship...yes. A dating relationship...not the way I look at it.
 
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Apple fanboy

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Feb 21, 2012
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When my now wife and I were dating we lived a hundreds of miles apart. In those days we didn't have mobiles or the internet. However I phoned her or visited her or wrote to her or sent her a surprise gift all the time. She did the same. If all your getting is the odd text, then no you are not dating.

Also if this is the same guy you posted about a while ago? Why do you ask for peoples opinions? It clearly isn't working out, and if it was you wouldn't be asking us to justify if you are dating or not. Tell him to put up or move on.
Then you can do the same and perhaps find somebody you can have a proper relationship with.